Comments on: Choices: how do you choose when you’re in midlife?

By: Susan

Susan — Sat, 07 Jun 2008 16:22:21 +0000

It looks like Peanut removed her shell. It’s amazing what a little Kleenex can do!

By: Karen

Karen — Thu, 29 May 2008 02:37:53 +0000

Jane–love your comment about the agony being in trying to decide. It describes a feeling I’ve definitely had before. But in midlife, I try to keep the agony to a minimum.

Maggie–thanks for your comment about Peanut. You’re so right about midlife. And where can we get your book?

Karen

By: Maggie Crane

Maggie Crane — Wed, 28 May 2008 15:49:01 +0000

I love your Peanut story! Most of us midlifers reach a point where we realize that ALL choices lead us to where we need to be – or is it that we just decide to learn from each opportunity? It’s the constant recycling of our internal conversation that makes us crazy and immobilizes us, wasting precious energy and time. Perhaps once we hit midlife, we become more mindful of how rapidly time is slipping by, which makes it imperative to pull things into perspective…quickly!

I am the author of AMAZING GRAYS: A Woman’s Guide to Making the Next 50 the BEST 50 (Regardless of your hair color!)

By: ByJane

ByJane — Wed, 28 May 2008 03:13:05 +0000

I used to agonize over life choices too. If I took this, would I want that? If I went this way, would I wish I had gone that way? What I learned eventually was that it almost didn’t matter which one I chose because the actual agony was all in trying to decide. And often the energy I was putting into deciding was really stopping me from doing or feeling something.

Of course I forget that now from time to time, like: shall I stay in Sacramento? Or go back to LA? Or maybe the Bay Area? Or, or, or….!