Comments on: One Last Look

By: karenb

karenb — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 01:50:11 +0000

Reading your post brought tears to my eyes. It brought back memories of losing my Dad almost 6 years ago although it seems like yesterday. I think what I’ve learned is that the pain never goes away but the sharp edges of it smooth out a little over the years. My mom is 89 years old and I have to say I dread that call that I know will come one day–sooner than later.

Thanks for writing on such a poignant topic.

Karen
http://midlifesatrip.com

By: MissKris

MissKris — Sun, 31 Aug 2008 21:29:44 +0000

At the age of 54 I am without both of my parents now. My mom died over 19 years ago, my Dad back in 2006. When I got the phone call just past 4 am from my baby brother letting me know Dad was gone, I crawled back into bed and into my Dear Hubby’s arms and said, “I’m an orphan now.” Then I burst into tears. It was devastating enough when my Mom died. I became the Matriarch of my family at the age of 35 since both my parents’ families were so small. When Dad died, tho, it felt as if the bottom of my world fell out from underneath my feet. I don’t care HOW old we are when we lose them…a little bit of us dies right along with them. It creates a void nothing else will ever fill.

By: Allison

Allison — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 18:42:44 +0000

Oh my goodness, this hit so close to home, it brought tears to my eyes. I’m headed up to Dallas to see my folks this weekend because I promised myself I would get up there more often. Dad has a lot of health problems and he’s ‘slipping’ so Mom needs some relief once in a while. They are only in their 70s, but still, seeing them, a little older every time I do, brings an ache in my heart. And then, both of them standing on the porch waving good bye, knowing things are hard for them because of Dad’s health, it is so poignant and achy.

Thanks for a beautiful post!

PS I love your blog’s name

Allison
http://www.womenbloom.com/blog

By: Babybloomr

Babybloomr — Wed, 27 Aug 2008 15:28:04 +0000

Thank you, KJ.
(I read your blog– LOVE it!) I appreciate you taking the time to comment, I’m so glad you could relate.

By: KJ - The Nana Diaries

KJ - The Nana Diaries — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 01:13:33 +0000

OMG, your descriptions of your parents sounded EXACTLY like mine. My parents are in their 70s, but I can tell you I have had the exact same thoughts you have. I just don’t want that day to come when one or both will not be around anymore. You truly captured your parents, and in so doing mine.

Thanks so much.
KJ
http://nanadiaries.wordpress.com

By: Babybloomr

Babybloomr — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 21:02:50 +0000

Susa, that makes perfect sense to me.

By: susan m

susan m — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 18:21:21 +0000

I relate it to someone who's lost a limb. You adapt, you learn how to deal. Some people even go on to turn the loss into something incredibly positive, like Olympic swimmer Natalie du Toit or Minnesota physician Stanley Woolner. But I guarantee that there's never a moment that they aren't aware of what's gone. There are people who don't understand that about losing a loved one... they think that at some point, everything goes back to normal. It doesn't; it just evolves into a different normal.

By: Babybloomr

Babybloomr — Mon, 25 Aug 2008 14:08:55 +0000

That’s the part of loss that is going to be so hard to accept, I think. The pain will lessen, the grief will subside, but the hole will never go away.