Comments on: What Love Is – The Other Side of the Story

By: Isle Dance

Isle Dance — Sat, 06 Feb 2010 19:47:23 +0000

((Awww…!))

By: Laura

Laura — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 18:51:05 +0000

MissKris, did you lay a golden egg? Glad to hear that you’re feeling better.

It’s funny that you should mention your parent’s bad marriage, because my parent’s and ex’s parent’s had long, generally happy marriages. That is what I expected, I had no other models. My parents are on year 53 and they still hold hands. It wasn’t that I didn’t try and that I was not committed to the marriage, but at a certain point you realize that it’s too hard to be holding things up by yourself without a real partner–except to take and not to give. It’s not marriage that’s the problem, it’s the partner, it’s the fit that cannot be made no matter how hard you try.

All the best to you.

By: MissKris

MissKris — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 15:49:52 +0000

Hi, Lynn! Oooooooh…aren’t blind dates like ours the best?! I’m sure you get the same open-mouthed reactions we do when we say we’ve been married 34 years, especially when we say they’ve been HAPPY years! Even making it to 5 is a milestone now, sadly. I wish you and your Dear Hubby many more happy years together, too.

By: MissKris

MissKris — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 15:45:55 +0000

Laura, I read your entry and my heart broke for you. I don’t know how I lucked out as well as I have. Maybe it was the resolve I had early on in life, growing up in a home where my parents were never happily married and telling myself, “I’ll never have THAT in my marriage!” And I haven’t. But I was also blessed with a man who felt the same way I have, and we’ve worked very hard to have a good life together. People have told us thru the years we’d be gazillionaires if we could bottle up our ‘secret’ but it isn’t any secret…it’s just working at keeping the spark alive, keeping the communication lines open, and never going to bed angry, even if we had to sit up half the nite working things out. Thank you for your many good thoughts…ironically, since I last visited here a few days ago, I ended up having major emergency surgery…my gall bladder was removed and I had a gall stone the size of a small hen egg!! Can you believe it?! But I already am home and feel a million times better.

By: Lynn Korff

Lynn Korff — Thu, 18 Sep 2008 22:54:01 +0000

What a great story….
“how two young kids can come together on a blind date and, in the time span of 5 months and 4 days of dating, decide they want to spend the rest of their lives together. A young woman who was 20 at the time, a young man barely 21.”

This is me and Hubby. Really. We met on a blind date in July. Got engaged in December and then married in May. We just celebrated our 25th anniversary. Here’s hoping we catch up to you.

By: phhhst

phhhst — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 16:11:19 +0000

Thank-you. I just started to figure out that my son sometimes is just plain prickly. I’ll take your advice. My daughter was fairly easy and when moody, just wanted to be left alone. My son likes to argue.

By: Laura

Laura — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 03:00:17 +0000

MissKris, I’m the bitter side of the coin you represent, oh, so sweetly. While I regret where my marriage ended up, that excitement of being in love when you’re young and hopeful and unaware of the darkness that life may hold is incomparable. I wish you nothing but health, happiness, and some great cups of coffee.

By: MissKris

MissKris — Wed, 17 Sep 2008 01:45:58 +0000

Oh my…and I don’t envy you those years at all! But, like everything else, “This too shall pass”. For the most part the teen years with both our son and daughter weren’t too hard. If I can give you any advice it would be this in dealing with them: “The best response is no response at all”. By that I mean, when they’re pushing your buttons as only they know how to do and they’re EXPECTING a reaction, if you just shrug and say “Whatever!” like they do and walk away…well, they don’t know how to respond to that and it takes the wind out of their sails pronto. At least it did with ours. And it’s so important to LISTEN. Even when they’re just prattling on and on. Our kids will be 32 and 30 this coming Monday and Tuesday and are two of our best friends. Thanks so much for taking the time to say hello!