Comments on: MidLife Suicides: Blaming The Victim? http://midlifebloggers.com/2008/10/24/midlife-suicides-blaming-the-victim/ Making The Most of MidLife--Together Fri, 17 Dec 2010 21:56:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.3 By: Cecilia http://midlifebloggers.com/2008/10/24/midlife-suicides-blaming-the-victim/comment-page-1/#comment-1182 Cecilia Fri, 31 Oct 2008 04:13:24 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=417#comment-1182 Hopefully the challenges facing many of us will remind us to be humble and to have more compassion. And some better financial sense. I agree that the tone with this election is pretty extreme, you think we would have learned to be able to respectfully disagree. Hopefully the challenges facing many of us will remind us to be humble and to have more compassion. And some better financial sense. I agree that the tone with this election is pretty extreme, you think we would have learned to be able to respectfully disagree.

]]> By: Allison http://midlifebloggers.com/2008/10/24/midlife-suicides-blaming-the-victim/comment-page-1/#comment-1175 Allison Thu, 30 Oct 2008 14:11:21 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=417#comment-1175 This makes me so sad and discouraged. I was just saying over at Blogher, the nasty tone in this country right now is our biggest problem. We have met the enemy and he is us. When did we become so ugly and bitter that we could make a comment like this to someone in such a situation? We have so many serious problems of which Laura and Marcygirl are examples and all we can do is savage each other? Where did this come from?? I'm so sorry that we are in this mess. I can't imagine being in the fix y'all are describing. Ms Meta's idea of taking extra care in looking around our patch to see who 'looks normal' but may need help is an excellent suggestion, thank you. This makes me so sad and discouraged. I was just saying over at Blogher, the nasty tone in this country right now is our biggest problem. We have met the enemy and he is us. When did we become so ugly and bitter that we could make a comment like this to someone in such a situation? We have so many serious problems of which Laura and Marcygirl are examples and all we can do is savage each other? Where did this come from??

I’m so sorry that we are in this mess. I can’t imagine being in the fix y’all are describing. Ms Meta’s idea of taking extra care in looking around our patch to see who ‘looks normal’ but may need help is an excellent suggestion, thank you.

]]> By: msmeta http://midlifebloggers.com/2008/10/24/midlife-suicides-blaming-the-victim/comment-page-1/#comment-1141 msmeta Mon, 27 Oct 2008 22:35:22 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=417#comment-1141 Wow, Laura, that's quite a story. I'm glad you had the resources and support to make it through such a difficult time. I'm afraid too many of us won't be as fortunate. Thanks for sharing, and continued good luck! Wow, Laura, that’s quite a story. I’m glad you had the resources and support to make it through such a difficult time. I’m afraid too many of us won’t be as fortunate. Thanks for sharing, and continued good luck!

]]> By: Laura http://midlifebloggers.com/2008/10/24/midlife-suicides-blaming-the-victim/comment-page-1/#comment-1108 Laura Sat, 25 Oct 2008 02:35:45 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=417#comment-1108 That certainly presents some serious room for contemplation. When I lost my job during the high-tech bust in 2001, the downward spiral began. The unemployment checks didn't last long and were a mere percentage of my pay. No jobs were to be found. I was "lucky" since I was still married and so went to graduate school. Again, no jobs were to be found; not many people are excited about hiring a middle-aged woman for entry level jobs where they cannot be forced to work ridiculous hours at ridiculous pay. So I changed fields again. But those four years of job hunting were emotionally and physically demoralizing and draining. The drain of keeping up our self-confidence and self-esteem in times of trouble is difficult. I cannot imagine what I would have done without the help of my parents--yes, they still help me--without their support, there but for the grace of God go I. It isn't easy to have to reconcile yourself to being a person who you never imagined yourself to be. May we all find a word of comfort and a place of comfort. That certainly presents some serious room for contemplation. When I lost my job during the high-tech bust in 2001, the downward spiral began. The unemployment checks didn’t last long and were a mere percentage of my pay. No jobs were to be found. I was “lucky” since I was still married and so went to graduate school. Again, no jobs were to be found; not many people are excited about hiring a middle-aged woman for entry level jobs where they cannot be forced to work ridiculous hours at ridiculous pay. So I changed fields again. But those four years of job hunting were emotionally and physically demoralizing and draining. The drain of keeping up our self-confidence and self-esteem in times of trouble is difficult. I cannot imagine what I would have done without the help of my parents–yes, they still help me–without their support, there but for the grace of God go I. It isn’t easy to have to reconcile yourself to being a person who you never imagined yourself to be.

May we all find a word of comfort and a place of comfort.

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