Comments on: Letter to my son

By: leah

leah — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 22:07:25 +0000

WE can only hope and pray,that our children learn from our mistakes and hopfully they have the good from both parents. show them love and respect also. realize altho young ,they have feelings and moods like we do. and its all about keeping the closness and showing them our love .also the communication ,has too stay open.Talking too one another is the best medicine.

By: leah

leah — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 21:56:27 +0000

The email was so touching and i am so familiar with the feelings you are sharing in this wonderful letter too your son. we put our children through so much,and we dont mean too,we at the time think we are making the right choices ,and seems sooner or later it dosent seem too have been the right choice. being a parent is such a hard and sometimes regretful, blessing,and joy. and all we can d is love them,and reasure them tha no matter what they are what makes us who we are and the joy we have is all do too them being in our life.
thank you so much for sharing.
leah from indiana

By: Wilma

Wilma — Tue, 27 Jan 2009 20:49:32 +0000

As a parent any decision effects your child. The courage is to write a letter like this and communicate your love and your understanding that whatever one does it effects another.
A letter like this is priceless. I am still finding the courage to write one to my daughter who feels she has suffered from my decisions.

By: Five Husbands

Five Husbands — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 04:23:57 +0000

Thank you very much -

By: Five Husbands

Five Husbands — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 04:23:26 +0000

Thank you – your observation is right on target. I worked very hard to avoid conflict and it happened anyway.

I think women need to stand up and say enough – not take it all in and just get by.

By: Five Husbands

Five Husbands — Sat, 13 Dec 2008 04:21:08 +0000

To everyone -

Friday I got 2 job offers. One was an extremely good job – and I accepted it. I start in January.

When I told my son – we both cried. For the first time in a long time we are secure. And the job is one that I have been looking for for a long time.

I will write more about the process but for now, for this past day, I have been standing in joy, and feeling something I thought I had lost forever, peace.

By: Middle Aged Dater

Middle Aged Dater — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 16:14:31 +0000

How incredibly moving.

By: Allison

Allison — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 15:35:28 +0000

Ah, another example of something I was keenly reminded of recently, that ‘seeing’ people for their unique special qualities, and then telling them about it can make such a shift in their perception of themselves and of you. It was brought home to me how it can touch people to their core.

I can only imagine how hard this situation has been for you. I think scores of women make the decision you made and come to see it differently later on. I have any number of friends who would probably say the same thing after experiencing something similar. I read once that women make financial decisions based on keeping relationships intact and conflict free, but then often later realize it takes a toll on those very relationships (and a toll on them financially) in ways they couldn’t foresee.

I admire your courage in putting it out there…maybe it will help other women see their situation in a different light. The payoff is you’ve obviously raised a wonderful, caring son who has learned some important lessons about compassion and his Mom that he might otherwise not have learned.

I’m sending positive vibes for you that 2009 is the start of a much better time for you!