Comments on: Dating At MidLife http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/03/03/dating-at-midlife/ Making The Most of MidLife--Together Fri, 17 Dec 2010 21:56:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.3 By: Allison http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/03/03/dating-at-midlife/comment-page-1/#comment-3155 Allison Mon, 11 May 2009 13:02:29 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=866#comment-3155 Hey Laura Lee, that is so true. My tall slow talkin' Texan does not on the ' outside' look like the guy I would have described. And, we are very different people. But, it's the essentials that are so perfect. And, you know, those differences are rubbing on my sharp edges in a very healthy way I've decided as the months have gone by. He challenges me which keeps me more flexible in my thinking, I have to consider things in a different light. Since I don't want to be some rigid minded old person, I can only think this is a good thing! Allison Hey Laura Lee, that is so true. My tall slow talkin’ Texan does not on the ‘ outside’ look like the guy I would have described. And, we are very different people. But, it’s the essentials that are so perfect. And, you know, those differences are rubbing on my sharp edges in a very healthy way I’ve decided as the months have gone by. He challenges me which keeps me more flexible in my thinking, I have to consider things in a different light. Since I don’t want to be some rigid minded old person, I can only think this is a good thing!

Allison

]]> By: Laura Lee aka the Midlife Crisis Queen http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/03/03/dating-at-midlife/comment-page-1/#comment-3148 Laura Lee aka the Midlife Crisis Queen Sun, 10 May 2009 13:41:51 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=866#comment-3148 Yes, I'm here to say it happens all the time, but it can turn out so different than expected! At age 49 I expected another academ-idiot like myself ..25 years in academia, basically Mr. Nerd. Instead I found the tall, dark, quiet, shy guy in the black leather jacket with the nice, red Goldwing. Nope, never pictured myself as the lady on the back of a motorcycle. Come to find out it's lots of FUN! And so is HE!!! Four years later we are as happy as ever...differences in personalities can be so much more interesting than sameness. For more details, go read: "Falling in Love at 49" over at MidlifeCrisisQueen.com Yes, I’m here to say it happens all the time, but it can turn out so different than expected!

At age 49 I expected another academ-idiot like myself ..25 years in academia, basically Mr. Nerd. Instead I found the tall, dark, quiet, shy guy in the black leather jacket with the nice, red Goldwing.

Nope, never pictured myself as the lady on the back of a motorcycle. Come to find out it’s lots of FUN! And so is HE!!! Four years later we are as happy as ever…differences in personalities can be so much more interesting than sameness.

For more details, go read: “Falling in Love at 49″ over at MidlifeCrisisQueen.com

]]> By: Allison http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/03/03/dating-at-midlife/comment-page-1/#comment-3127 Allison Thu, 07 May 2009 13:59:16 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=866#comment-3127 Hey Lindatall, thanks! I could hardly imagine it myself, it sorta came out of nowhere. And it continues to get better and better. I would say, start imaginin'! If it could happen to me, it truly could happen to anyone! Hey Lindatall, thanks! I could hardly imagine it myself, it sorta came out of nowhere. And it continues to get better and better. I would say, start imaginin’! If it could happen to me, it truly could happen to anyone!

]]> By: Lindatall2 http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/03/03/dating-at-midlife/comment-page-1/#comment-3123 Lindatall2 Thu, 07 May 2009 00:14:50 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=866#comment-3123 I'm so jealous and happy for you! I've been on a lot of match/eharmony/yahoo dates...and the pickin's are lean (or at least those who are interested in pickin' me). I just can't imagine feeling intellectually, physically and emotionally attraced to anyone anymore...and maybe that's the problem, e.g., I just can't imagine it anymore. So enjoy! I’m so jealous and happy for you! I’ve been on a lot of match/eharmony/yahoo dates…and the pickin’s are lean (or at least those who are interested in pickin’ me). I just can’t imagine feeling intellectually, physically and emotionally attraced to anyone anymore…and maybe that’s the problem, e.g., I just can’t imagine it anymore. So enjoy!

]]> By: Allison http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/03/03/dating-at-midlife/comment-page-1/#comment-2674 Allison Wed, 04 Mar 2009 18:01:34 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=866#comment-2674 Verite P, I hear you, I never expected this feeling. I'm curious, why do you think of yourself as though 'with all that'? This has been a strange experience, this feeling. But it feels like an open eyed 'smitten'. I've been around the relationship block enough that my expectations feel more mature. They aren't expecting the same things as 'smitten' at 28 would be looking for. We have independent lives and identities which may be why our different world views work OK. My sense of self isn't dependent on him. That is a good feeling. Thanks for the well wishes! Verite P,

I hear you, I never expected this feeling. I’m curious, why do you think of yourself as though ‘with all that’?

This has been a strange experience, this feeling. But it feels like an open eyed ‘smitten’. I’ve been around the relationship block enough that my expectations feel more mature. They aren’t expecting the same things as ‘smitten’ at 28 would be looking for. We have independent lives and identities which may be why our different world views work OK.

My sense of self isn’t dependent on him. That is a good feeling.

Thanks for the well wishes!

]]> By: Verite Parlant http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/03/03/dating-at-midlife/comment-page-1/#comment-2668 Verite Parlant Wed, 04 Mar 2009 10:46:09 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=866#comment-2668 Lovely story. I, however, dread ever feeling smitten again because I think of myself as through with all that. So, whenever I hear stories like yours ... *gets a little nervous* :-) When a young associate told me her mother, age 53, was getting married, my response was "Shut up!" However, I have an aunt in her 70s with a regular boyfriend, dinners, casinos, movies ... the whole nine yards. What I'm saying is, while I may be skittish, I know that it's possible to have your happy ending. Enjoy every moment. Lovely story. I, however, dread ever feeling smitten again because I think of myself as through with all that. So, whenever I hear stories like yours … *gets a little nervous* :-) When a young associate told me her mother, age 53, was getting married, my response was “Shut up!” However, I have an aunt in her 70s with a regular boyfriend, dinners, casinos, movies … the whole nine yards.

What I’m saying is, while I may be skittish, I know that it’s possible to have your happy ending. Enjoy every moment.

]]> By: Allison http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/03/03/dating-at-midlife/comment-page-1/#comment-2658 Allison Wed, 04 Mar 2009 01:09:41 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=866#comment-2658 Ms. Meta, I KNOW!!! I can't believe he has a tux either, and he doesn't fuss about wearing a suit. I think the universe is making it up to me for all the years I spent with men who would rather pass a kidney stone than dress up. Heaven :) Thanks so much for your kind words...I'm kinda like wha' happened?!? myself! Duchess, We are feeling our way, we do have different world views which can sometimes be a little hair raising :) But, somehow, could this be a big benefit of hitting midlife?, I find myself less attached to who he is as in he can be different than me and I'm OK to let him be that way. I don't see it as a reflection on me or something. Haven't quite figured it out yet, but so far so good. So, it CAN happen, I'll keep the old fingers crossed that something good your way comes! Allison Ms. Meta,

I KNOW!!! I can’t believe he has a tux either, and he doesn’t fuss about wearing a suit. I think the universe is making it up to me for all the years I spent with men who would rather pass a kidney stone than dress up. Heaven :) Thanks so much for your kind words…I’m kinda like wha’ happened?!? myself!

Duchess,

We are feeling our way, we do have different world views which can sometimes be a little hair raising :) But, somehow, could this be a big benefit of hitting midlife?, I find myself less attached to who he is as in he can be different than me and I’m OK to let him be that way. I don’t see it as a reflection on me or something. Haven’t quite figured it out yet, but so far so good. So, it CAN happen, I’ll keep the old fingers crossed that something good your way comes!

Allison

]]> By: Duchess http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/03/03/dating-at-midlife/comment-page-1/#comment-2655 Duchess Tue, 03 Mar 2009 20:24:26 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=866#comment-2655 I remembered your earlier post... Thanks for updating us. Sounds like you two are, er, feeling your way. And it sounds good. Congratulations! I'm envious. Maybe I need to start learning some of your lessons. I remembered your earlier post… Thanks for updating us. Sounds like you two are, er, feeling your way. And it sounds good. Congratulations! I’m envious. Maybe I need to start learning some of your lessons.

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