Comments on: The Caregiver In MidLife : Where their needs end and yours begin http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/04/22/the-caregiver-in-midlife-where-their-needs-end-and-yours-begin/ Making The Most of MidLife--Together Fri, 17 Dec 2010 21:56:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.3 By: Ellen Besso http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/04/22/the-caregiver-in-midlife-where-their-needs-end-and-yours-begin/comment-page-1/#comment-3055 Ellen Besso Thu, 23 Apr 2009 19:50:18 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=1119#comment-3055 Hello Donohue: Thanks for writing. I think that's a perfect answer for those who feel guilty about looking after themselves - a segue into natural self-care. I actually used the airplane metaphor in another chapter of the book. Cheers Ellen Hello Donohue: Thanks for writing. I think that’s a perfect answer for those who feel guilty about looking after themselves – a segue into natural self-care.

I actually used the airplane metaphor in another chapter of the book.

Cheers
Ellen

]]> By: Ellen Besso http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/04/22/the-caregiver-in-midlife-where-their-needs-end-and-yours-begin/comment-page-1/#comment-3054 Ellen Besso Thu, 23 Apr 2009 19:48:33 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=1119#comment-3054 Kari: Yes, I agree - it is huge in time & energy & also huge in emotional heart-felt & spiritual commitment. Thanks for taking the time to write & for the work you're doing. Warm wishes Ellen Kari: Yes, I agree – it is huge in time & energy & also huge in emotional heart-felt & spiritual commitment.

Thanks for taking the time to write & for the work you’re doing.

Warm wishes
Ellen

]]> By: Donahue Vanderhider, MSG http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/04/22/the-caregiver-in-midlife-where-their-needs-end-and-yours-begin/comment-page-1/#comment-3051 Donahue Vanderhider, MSG Thu, 23 Apr 2009 00:18:55 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=1119#comment-3051 Very well said. Even for the caregiver that feels guilty about putting their own needs first, there is a good reason for them to take care of themselves. Because if something happens to them, who will be there to continue the care? When the Alzheimer's Association says that 50% of caregivers die before the person they are caring for, it becomes imperative - in order to be a good caregiver, you must think of yourself. This statistic comes from the chronic stress that caregivers experience. Therefore, caregivers should take time to protect their health. A good way of looking at it, is the airplane example. When you fly, the flight attendant says, if you are flying with children and the air bags deploy, put yours on FIRST! The reason is if there is no oxygen, you will lose consciousness in just a few seconds. For the safety of both, the parent needs to make sure they do not lose consciousness, and should put theirs on first. Thanks for your post. Very well said. Even for the caregiver that feels guilty about putting their own needs first, there is a good reason for them to take care of themselves. Because if something happens to them, who will be there to continue the care? When the Alzheimer’s Association says that 50% of caregivers die before the person they are caring for, it becomes imperative – in order to be a good caregiver, you must think of yourself. This statistic comes from the chronic stress that caregivers experience. Therefore, caregivers should take time to protect their health.
A good way of looking at it, is the airplane example. When you fly, the flight attendant says, if you are flying with children and the air bags deploy, put yours on FIRST! The reason is if there is no oxygen, you will lose consciousness in just a few seconds. For the safety of both, the parent needs to make sure they do not lose consciousness, and should put theirs on first. Thanks for your post.

]]> By: Kari Berit http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/04/22/the-caregiver-in-midlife-where-their-needs-end-and-yours-begin/comment-page-1/#comment-3050 Kari Berit Wed, 22 Apr 2009 13:58:00 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=1119#comment-3050 Being called to give care to our aging parents is huge. Check out "The Unexpected Caregiver" for more reality checks. Thank you for sharing, Kari Berit Being called to give care to our aging parents is huge. Check out “The Unexpected Caregiver” for more reality checks. Thank you for sharing, Kari Berit

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