Comments on: What is it about the libido and midlife?

By: On Da Road

On Da Road — Tue, 19 May 2009 19:15:50 +0000

Interesting topic .. I was pondering just the other day about not having ‘the urge to merge’ anymore. Good to know its just a life phase …

By: Lindatall2

Lindatall2 — Wed, 06 May 2009 23:30:36 +0000

I used to be hot to trot…I was a woman of the 60′s…now I’m an old, libidoless lady of the (hmmm..what decade is this ). Maybe that’s an unexpected benefit of losing your mind at this age too…you forget how great it was to feel alive…to have that urge to merge constantly on your mind. I’m single and while I still try very diligently to put myself out there and “compete” on the dating websites with men older than me wanting a young, sweet thing…it is exhausting and without the need for sex, seems pretty unimportant in the whole scheme of things. I miss it and wish it would come back. I’d give up wisdom and maturity in a heartbeat for just one good roll in the hay!

By: Joanna Jenkins

Joanna Jenkins — Fri, 01 May 2009 23:05:45 +0000

I pray every night for my mojo to come back! Thanks for putting it out there and asking the question. Now if there was just a female Viagra……

By: Tuahtah

Tuahtah — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 22:40:49 +0000

I’m just wondering if Frank has a little pharmaceutical help. Yea I know men have a kind of menopause but with the hormones fleeing in droves even thinking that sex is life doesn’t really rev the engines.
I have a friend about to turn 60. She says that for the most part she doesn’t even know she wants sex until she and her partner start. So I guess that goes along with the advice Conz received “Just do it”

By: Christie

Christie — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 15:57:51 +0000

Conz, you are the coolest kittie I know. I guess sex can be as enjoyable as gardening, just less muddy… unless… what about a little al fresco canoodling? Nothing like the sun to start a fire somewhere.

By: Conz

Conz — Wed, 29 Apr 2009 01:13:20 +0000

Thanks all for your input. A dear friend just advised me that hubby and I need to MAKE ourselves do it. Exactly the way I garden–I’m not really “in the mood”, but I do it anyway. The garden looks lovely, by the way.

By: Frank Crandall

Frank Crandall — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 22:31:45 +0000

Midlife is the4 new twenties. I’ve had more “fun” since I turned fifty than any period before then. A sex life IS life… without it…. why?

By: @CuriousDina

@CuriousDina — Tue, 28 Apr 2009 19:35:02 +0000

I’m with you, gals. I used to be a girl of large appetite especially after my second marriage. Now, in the grips of menopause,I’m peckish, at best. It really galls me that now that we have time to spend all day in bed neither of us wants to do it (unless it’s to sleep).

Not wanting to take this lying down, I’m writing about bringing sexy back and the tools to do it on my blog. And, readers are responding positively. (that helps alot since my hubby is mortified people will find out we have sex-shhh)

I reviewed a great adult film that featuring ‘mature’ lovers that was really very uplifting. Today, I’m reading a new book about Tantri Tai Chi. If it’s good, and it’s out there, I’m gonna blog about it. Sex is too healing, too connecting, too special to let go of…