Comments on: To Dye or Not, That is the [Midlife] Question… http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/05/04/to-dye-or-not-that-is-the-midlife-question/ Making The Most of MidLife--Together Fri, 17 Dec 2010 21:56:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.3 By: Ellen Besso http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/05/04/to-dye-or-not-that-is-the-midlife-question/comment-page-1/#comment-5664 Ellen Besso Fri, 05 Mar 2010 19:34:17 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=1147#comment-5664 Very clever & witty dearpru! We have many choices now as women, BUT we still become invisible as we age to younger people, maybe to men our age too! Ellen Besso MidLife Coach & Author http://www.ellenbesso.com Very clever & witty dearpru! We have many choices now as women, BUT we still become invisible as we age to younger people, maybe to men our age too!

Ellen Besso
MidLife Coach & Author
http://www.ellenbesso.com

]]> By: Candelaria http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/05/04/to-dye-or-not-that-is-the-midlife-question/comment-page-1/#comment-3246 Candelaria Thu, 28 May 2009 02:30:24 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=1147#comment-3246 I wrote a piece on my blog that I posted on Blog Her some months ago called "Going for the Silver and Not the Gold." I am letting my white/silver hair grown out. I have a few very interesting streaks. Sometimes I like it when it is freshly coiffed and clean and dramatic. Other times, pulled back into the back-up ponytail, I startle myself in the mirror. I plan to keep at it because too many months have gone by to start the coloring all over again. I do plan to get a red wig because I've always wanted to try red hair. I think I'm also going to go to a make-up artist to figure out how to get my make-up to complement the new hair color. Do whatever you like in the moment. It's your right to change your mind. I wrote a piece on my blog that I posted on Blog Her some months ago called “Going for the Silver and Not the Gold.” I am letting my white/silver hair grown out. I have a few very interesting streaks. Sometimes I like it when it is freshly coiffed and clean and dramatic. Other times, pulled back into the back-up ponytail, I startle myself in the mirror. I plan to keep at it because too many months have gone by to start the coloring all over again. I do plan to get a red wig because I’ve always wanted to try red hair. I think I’m also going to go to a make-up artist to figure out how to get my make-up to complement the new hair color.
Do whatever you like in the moment. It’s your right to change your mind.

]]> By: On Da Road http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/05/04/to-dye-or-not-that-is-the-midlife-question/comment-page-1/#comment-3200 On Da Road Tue, 19 May 2009 19:33:01 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=1147#comment-3200 I think it depends .. its seems to me that some women just do grey much better than others. They look vibrant, in charge of their life and on top of the world. Others .. not so much. I think it is more about the whole package than just the hair though. I think it depends .. its seems to me that some women just do grey much better than others. They look vibrant, in charge of their life and on top of the world. Others .. not so much. I think it is more about the whole package than just the hair though.

]]> By: Cathy http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/05/04/to-dye-or-not-that-is-the-midlife-question/comment-page-1/#comment-3129 Cathy Thu, 07 May 2009 14:56:50 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=1147#comment-3129 The guy who said I looked like a haggard 35, is apparently denying he used such a word to my friend, who is now his betrothed. He claims he said "30" and didn't use the "h" word. I can't imagine that she would misinterpret such a line. I just hope he doesn't put her in the "hag" category once they've got a decade or so of matrimony under their belt. But dang it, y'all are right, whether I look young or "rough", fresh or rode hard, I've earned it, as well as the right to choose to color my new locks or work against society's conceptions. The guy who said I looked like a haggard 35, is apparently denying he used such a word to my friend, who is now his betrothed. He claims he said “30″ and didn’t use the “h” word. I can’t imagine that she would misinterpret such a line. I just hope he doesn’t put her in the “hag” category once they’ve got a decade or so of matrimony under their belt. But dang it, y’all are right, whether I look young or “rough”, fresh or rode hard, I’ve earned it, as well as the right to choose to color my new locks or work against society’s conceptions.

]]> By: Allison http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/05/04/to-dye-or-not-that-is-the-midlife-question/comment-page-1/#comment-3128 Allison Thu, 07 May 2009 14:09:43 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=1147#comment-3128 This is such an ongoing conundrum. I know several women who are gray and they have such great cuts (usually short I observe) and style that they look fabulous. Their very up to date makeup and clothes look great and contributes to their look I'll admit, but it's hard for me to imagine anyone would think they are 'grandmas'. They just look too 'with it' and vibrant. So, I think it's the whole picture including your attitude, not just the gray question. I think looking 35, even a 'haggard' 35, still counts as a compliment. :) And, keeping that perogative to change your mind means you can try the gray thing and if it doesn't work, go back. Sounds to me like you've earned the right to do whatever you darned well please with regard to your hair and phooey on anyone who thinks differently. This is such an ongoing conundrum. I know several women who are gray and they have such great cuts (usually short I observe) and style that they look fabulous. Their very up to date makeup and clothes look great and contributes to their look I’ll admit, but it’s hard for me to imagine anyone would think they are ‘grandmas’. They just look too ‘with it’ and vibrant. So, I think it’s the whole picture including your attitude, not just the gray question.

I think looking 35, even a ‘haggard’ 35, still counts as a compliment. :) And, keeping that perogative to change your mind means you can try the gray thing and if it doesn’t work, go back. Sounds to me like you’ve earned the right to do whatever you darned well please with regard to your hair and phooey on anyone who thinks differently.

]]> By: the Mayor http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/05/04/to-dye-or-not-that-is-the-midlife-question/comment-page-1/#comment-3125 the Mayor Thu, 07 May 2009 03:38:25 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=1147#comment-3125 My husband keeps showing me magazine pictures of models with silver gray hair. I told him I enjoyed it when people thought I might be his daughter. I also proclaimed they would have to pry my hair dye bottle out of my cold dead hand. My husband keeps showing me magazine pictures of models with silver gray hair. I told him I enjoyed it when people thought I might be his daughter. I also proclaimed they would have to pry my hair dye bottle out of my cold dead hand.

]]> By: Denise http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/05/04/to-dye-or-not-that-is-the-midlife-question/comment-page-1/#comment-3119 Denise Wed, 06 May 2009 20:55:22 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=1147#comment-3119 I can't advise you on what to do; I am still spitting diet pepsi through my nose from reading "dukes of haggard"!. And oh, god kill that man who said " a haggard 35". Around here, they say , "She looks rough". Not sure that's any better... I can’t advise you on what to do; I am still spitting diet pepsi through my nose from reading “dukes of haggard”!.
And oh, god kill that man who said ” a haggard 35″. Around here, they say , “She looks rough”. Not sure that’s any better…

]]> By: Cathy http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/05/04/to-dye-or-not-that-is-the-midlife-question/comment-page-1/#comment-3117 Cathy Wed, 06 May 2009 19:25:00 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=1147#comment-3117 EmmJay, Thank you for bringing up an important point about the toxicity of hair dyes. Just the other day my cousin and I were talking about a new dye she’s using, one from the health food store (she looks great, by the way). So I went to the Skin Deep cosmetic safety database and we couldn’t find the brand (Tints of Nature) on the site, but I was able to check out the ingredients and they were pretty good. Then we looked up Clairol and others like it, and uh-oh, they ranked a 10 - 10 being most dangerous for cancer and other scary things like neurotoxicity and endocrine disruption. If I go back to coloring I'm going to check out the more healthy options. EmmJay,
Thank you for bringing up an important point about the toxicity of hair dyes. Just the other day my cousin and I were talking about a new dye she’s using, one from the health food store (she looks great, by the way). So I went to the Skin Deep cosmetic safety database and we couldn’t find the brand (Tints of Nature) on the site, but I was able to check out the ingredients and they were pretty good. Then we looked up Clairol and others like it, and uh-oh, they ranked a 10 – 10 being most dangerous for cancer and other scary things like neurotoxicity and endocrine disruption. If I go back to coloring I’m going to check out the more healthy options.

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