by Jill Crossland of Fabulously Over 40
A lot is written about fear. Fear of failure, fear of success. Fear of taking the next step, fear of not taking it. It is an emotion that can permeate both our private and professional lives. For all the analysis and sensationalizing, some fears can get blown up out of proportion.
Two completely disconnected events last week got me thinking about just that and how sometimes we need reminding that we are ultimately in charge of how we handle our fears.
When I was recently asked why I became an entrepreneur; I tossed off the answer ‘because I don’t play well with others’. Which is true, I like working for myself, not being answerable to anyone and usually only having to run most major decisions past the dogs who always agree with me. However that doesn’t mean that I don’t second guess myself or want someone to brainstorm with when I have a challenge but the thing is if I exist in the place of uncertainty then the business will become stagnant. If I don’t keep the fears in proportion I might as well work at McDonalds™ and be told what to do for 8 hours.
Also, last week I woke up at 1:30am because my heart was doing its atrial fibrillation thing. The occasional reoccurrence of this condition always brings me fleetingly face to face with my own mortality. Hey, it’s the early morning hours I can go there but I don’t for more than a fleeting moment. What I do when the rhythm is back to normal and the nausea and dizziness have subsided is quickly resume my life. I embrace what is within my control; the lifestyle choices by way of diet, exercise, relaxation methods and my overall state of mind.
Once we recognize the cause of our fear, we can then ensure that we are managing it not vice versa. We need to put our fears in perspective in order to keep our lives, businesses and relationships moving forward.
Perhaps the stories of these four women will help with your frame of reference as each of them currently co-exists with fear in its ultimate form:
Two American journalists, Laura Ling & Euna Lee have been jailed in North Korea since March 17, 2009. They have now been sentenced to 12 years of hard labour. The emotions that these two journalists must be feeling are beyond our comprehension.
Noble Peace Prize winner, Aung San Suu Kyi has been under some form of house arrest since 1989. In 1990 she won the right to be the Prime Minister of Burma but the military will not recognize a democratic election. This month she has been arrested and charged with breaking the conditions of her detention.
Then, Farrah Fawcett, the tousled haired girl has become a woman devoid of self-pity as she wages her fight with cancer. She is a sculptor, painter, loves to play tennis, enjoys baking and as she says so poignantly in her documentary “I miss my life”.
Ed. Note: Farrah died today.