Comments on: The New Roommates http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/08/04/the-new-roommates/ Making The Most of MidLife--Together Fri, 17 Dec 2010 21:56:45 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.3 By: Patrick Roden http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/08/04/the-new-roommates/comment-page-1/#comment-4573 Patrick Roden Mon, 19 Oct 2009 02:33:22 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=1443#comment-4573 Interesting take, Sandy00. Every form of refuge has its price. I appreciate your comment, Patrick Interesting take, Sandy00.

Every form of refuge has its price.

I appreciate your comment, Patrick

]]> By: SandyOO http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/08/04/the-new-roommates/comment-page-1/#comment-4567 SandyOO Sat, 17 Oct 2009 23:45:53 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=1443#comment-4567 I work at a gas station, right now there are 4 woman age 44 to 56, we're talking about 200 years of experience. As a a young woman I lived in a girls home, and I hated living with woman. I know for sure after years of living, people do get set in there ways. Living with a bunch of woman would not be how I would like to spend maybe the next 30 to 40 years of my life. There's something good, about just going to visit. However, it's understandable why some woman do, it's difficult living on fixed incomes, and being alone sometimes sucks. I work at a gas station, right now there are 4 woman age 44 to 56, we’re talking about 200 years of experience. As a a young woman I lived in a girls home, and I hated living with woman. I know for sure after years of living, people do get set in there ways. Living with a bunch of woman would not be how I would like to spend maybe the next 30 to 40 years of my life. There’s something good, about just going to visit. However, it’s understandable why some woman do, it’s difficult living on fixed incomes, and being alone sometimes sucks.

]]> By: Pat Roden http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/08/04/the-new-roommates/comment-page-1/#comment-3679 Pat Roden Sun, 23 Aug 2009 23:50:26 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=1443#comment-3679 Lee, you have given more food-for-thought on this blog topic—namely, career sharing. I was thinking in terms of pooling SS checks, but you have advanced the concept even further. FYI, in my state there's a Mt. Range called “Three Sisters,” near Sisters, Oregon…In fact; my wife is climbing the South Sister with my sister and three other women friends this month. Maybe there is a play on a theme here for your dream coffee shop? One of our favorites is located right down town! Good for you, I hope your husband recovers his health and career, for a long and happy life together. Best, Patrick See: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Three_Sisters_(Oregon) http://www.sisterscoffee.com/ Lee, you have given more food-for-thought on this blog topic—namely, career sharing. I was thinking in terms of pooling SS checks, but you have advanced the concept even further.

FYI, in my state there’s a Mt. Range called “Three Sisters,” near Sisters, Oregon…In fact; my wife is climbing the South Sister with my sister and three other women friends this month.

Maybe there is a play on a theme here for your dream coffee shop? One of our favorites is located right down town!

Good for you, I hope your husband recovers his health and career, for a long and happy life together.

Best, Patrick

See:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Three_Sisters_(Oregon)
http://www.sisterscoffee.com/

]]> By: LeeHudson http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/08/04/the-new-roommates/comment-page-1/#comment-3678 LeeHudson Sun, 23 Aug 2009 22:06:45 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=1443#comment-3678 New to this site: My sisters and I have discussed not only living together someday, after our spouses are...after; but, we also want to open a coffee shop together. There are 3 of us, so we can stagger days or weeks off; or, hire some cute young studs to work the counter for us. Hey, wasn't that what Hooters was all about?! I have stayed at home since my kids were born and looked forward to getting into the working world when they grew up, only to be hit with my husband's first and second heart attacks - which kept me at home helping him keep his job - which was lost in March anyway, due to this crazy economy. I've been considering a part time job at a local coffee shop...to prepare me for the 3 Sisters years! New to this site: My sisters and I have discussed not only living together someday, after our spouses are…after; but, we also want to open a coffee shop together. There are 3 of us, so we can stagger days or weeks off; or, hire some cute young studs to work the counter for us. Hey, wasn’t that what Hooters was all about?!
I have stayed at home since my kids were born and looked forward to getting into the working world when they grew up, only to be hit with my husband’s first and second heart attacks – which kept me at home helping him keep his job – which was lost in March anyway, due to this crazy economy. I’ve been considering a part time job at a local coffee shop…to prepare me for the 3 Sisters years!

]]> By: Patrick Roden http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/08/04/the-new-roommates/comment-page-1/#comment-3647 Patrick Roden Fri, 14 Aug 2009 14:06:01 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=1443#comment-3647 To the queen of practicality (the Mayor): I appreciate your logical and practical approach to this issue. You are much like my wife...as for me, emotions usually get me moving in a logical direction. Whatever the motivating factor, it makes great sense to begin exploring the possibilities by taking small steps. Ask a friend, bring up the concept at the next social event, talk with co-workers, ask what they think--get a conversation going. Sounds like you are way ahead on this issue... To the queen of practicality (the Mayor):
I appreciate your logical and practical approach to this issue.

You are much like my wife…as for me, emotions usually get me moving in a logical direction.

Whatever the motivating factor, it makes great sense to begin exploring the possibilities by taking small steps.

Ask a friend, bring up the concept at the next social event, talk with co-workers, ask what they think–get a conversation going.

Sounds like you are way ahead on this issue…

]]> By: the Mayor http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/08/04/the-new-roommates/comment-page-1/#comment-3639 the Mayor Fri, 14 Aug 2009 02:33:56 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=1443#comment-3639 The whole concept makes complete sense to me being that I am the queen of practicality. I've discussed this with my girlfriends over the years and we thought it a perfectly logical idea. The whole concept makes complete sense to me being that I am the queen of practicality. I’ve discussed this with my girlfriends over the years and we thought it a perfectly logical idea.

]]> By: the Mayor http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/08/04/the-new-roommates/comment-page-1/#comment-3638 the Mayor Fri, 14 Aug 2009 02:30:43 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=1443#comment-3638 You are so right, we will be the techno-grannies. You are so right, we will be the techno-grannies.

]]> By: Pat Roden http://midlifebloggers.com/2009/08/04/the-new-roommates/comment-page-1/#comment-3618 Pat Roden Mon, 10 Aug 2009 21:13:05 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=1443#comment-3618 Mark, good question; due to the “sex-ratio,” that is, more women than men outlive their spouses because women tend to marry older men and to have longer life expectancies, this has been mainly a women’s issue. Most women are widowed and live alone after age seventy-five, while most men are married and live with their wives. So the idea of women pooling resources in midlife and beyond has received more attention than men who usually have that “informal” care discussed earlier. Elderly women living alone are more likely to be poor than their male counterparts. Of the almost 2 million elderly poor living alone in 2003, over 1.6 million were women. (Adapted from the 2005 revised edition of The Basics Social Security Reform.) I’d like to hear of some elderly men’s sharing housing stories. You bring up another point, and that concerns other types of living arrangements for aging in place. I’d like to list several here: 1. For elder gays and lesbians: http://www.gleh.org/ 2. Circle of Caring: A trusted group of friends in late midlife on Whidbey Island, WA. http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/localnews/2002963885_elder27m.html 3. CoHousing: http://www.cohousing.org/ So there are viable living options (for both genders) beyond our culturally constructed choices of the past for how we want to experience living past midlife. This was the main theme of the blog posting. Thanks for bringing up this question. Patrick Mark, good question; due to the “sex-ratio,” that is, more women than men outlive their spouses because women tend to marry older men and to have longer life expectancies, this has been mainly a women’s issue.

Most women are widowed and live alone after age seventy-five, while most men are married and live with their wives. So the idea of women pooling resources in midlife and beyond has received more attention than men who usually have that “informal” care discussed earlier.

Elderly women living alone are more likely to be poor than their male counterparts. Of the almost 2 million elderly poor living alone in 2003, over 1.6 million were women.
(Adapted from the 2005 revised edition of The Basics Social Security Reform.)

I’d like to hear of some elderly men’s sharing housing stories.

You bring up another point, and that concerns other types of living arrangements for aging in place. I’d like to list several here:

1. For elder gays and lesbians:
http://www.gleh.org/

2. Circle of Caring: A trusted group of friends in late midlife on Whidbey Island, WA.
http://seattletimes.nwsource.com/html/localnews/2002963885_elder27m.html

3. CoHousing:
http://www.cohousing.org/

So there are viable living options (for both genders) beyond our culturally constructed choices of the past for how we want to experience living past midlife. This was the main theme of the blog posting.

Thanks for bringing up this question.

Patrick

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