Comments on: Redefining Hot in the MidLife Dictionary

By: Debborah

Debborah — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 19:22:40 +0000

If that is your pic you are definately hot. I’m 54 and decided I don’t care what others rate me anymore. I have a man who loves me, and thinks I’m hot so that’s enough for me. I think the hotness scale stops at 50 in my 40′s I was hot, and had men hitting on me all the time. Since I decided to stop dying my hair, and let it go grey, that kinda stopped. So yeah hot definately is on my “I don’t care list.”

By: Candelaria

Candelaria — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 01:44:04 +0000

My first husband was twenty years older than me and I was the hot young thing he lusted after and won. My current husband (who I plan to keep until death do us part) and I started dating when I was 48 and he was 50 and got married when I was 50. I’ve recently (at age 55) stopped coloring my hair and so it is white about four inches down and traveling. I wondered if this would cool his libido (it hasn’t) or if I would stop getting any appreciative glances when out in public. I have found that while the appreciative glances are less especially when I’m schlepping and am not being my colorful, foxy put-together self, the appreciative comments and glances that do come have been from younger men and other women. I also know that if something were to happen and I were back on the dating scene, I’d get dates because my joie de vie is what has made me hot through all my ages. I have friends who are smaller and beautiful who’ve had a terrible time dating largely because they are so picky or they have an off-putting style that drives people away. They don’t know how to flirt, they keep waiting for “it” to find them instead of going out for “it”, and they screen out ordinary folks. Anyhow, hot is as hot does as hot feels. My mother at 75 is still sexy and among the 60-80 year olds, she gets lot of “play.”

By: byjane

byjane — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 23:37:04 +0000

Jan,
Try soy.

By: byjane

byjane — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 23:36:31 +0000

I half agree with you. There are all kinds of hot out there, but I’m not sure that one’s humanity is part of the definition for most people.

By: byjane

byjane — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 23:32:46 +0000

Neil,
I think you’re unusual in seeing women in your immediate age group as “hot.” Most of your peers seem to lust after nubile young’uns. It’s that innate thing of wanting to populate the world, and therefore fertility is for them a strong component of ‘hotness’.

By: Jan

Jan — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 21:48:28 +0000

I’m just looking forward to a time when I’m no longer hot. As in flashes.

By: Karen

Karen — Sat, 22 Aug 2009 18:56:18 +0000

Hot is only skin deep. A young person may look “hot” but if, when they open their mouths, they reveal that they are a shallow, egotistical person, they are no longer “hot” in my book. An older, more mature, person, on the other hand, can become infinitely more hot, when they speak their mind and reveal that they are kind, intelligent, caring, and thoughtful towards others. There are all kinds of hot out there, in my opinion.

By: Neil

Neil — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 18:37:53 +0000

I think the standard of hotness changes with your age. Pop culture is all about selling to the young, so they are obsessive to equate youthness as “hot.” But in the real world, things change, and a thirty or forty year old can definitely see someone in their age group as “hot,” much more than someone who is 23 can see an older person as hot. TV and movies and advertisements distort the world because they need to appeal to our insecurities and fantasies. Right now, I mostly see women in my immediate age group as “hot.” It seems creepy to lust after someone too young, and someone older seems too much like an aunt. That doesn’t mean they aren’t “hot” to those in their age group. I think the problem with modern media is that it rarely moves beyond a demographic of 18-30.