Comments on: Of Marriage, Life, Art and Loss

By: Denise

Denise — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 20:12:49 +0000

Lorinda,

Hugs right back to you!

By: Lorinda

Lorinda — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 23:18:39 +0000

I have read your blog… I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs from one who cares.

By: Denise

Denise — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 09:56:43 +0000

Duchess- No fair making me cry so early in the morning. I am so touched by people “out there” reaching out and offering kind words and support. It means the world to me.

By: Duchess

Duchess — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 03:41:15 +0000

I found your blog almost two years ago and read every word — about your daughter, about raising L, about your marriage and moving to the island. I thought you were so generous and loving to offer your grandson a home, and then so brave and unselfish in losing him for the very good reason that his mother was getting herself together. But most of all I thought you were lucky to have found someone to share your life and to get old with.

For a long time your posts have been brief and often dark, and I have worried that your new life had crumbled in many ways. I remember that you wrote, without a lot of explanation, about the brain atrophy diagnosis, and then obliquely about the alcohol. I am so sorry!

But you have been strong before and you are clearly still strong now. Or at least strong enough for yoga, and to remember that you need to create — words, pictures, objects, home.

By: Denise

Denise — Wed, 02 Dec 2009 14:33:56 +0000

Thank you starrlife! It is a challenge to make a safe space when you’ve been accustomed to “do” for others most of your life, but such a joy when you make one!

By: starrlife

starrlife — Tue, 01 Dec 2009 23:22:36 +0000

So sorry to hear about your situation…. so challenging and traumatic. You are correct to a degree- it is his chaos but being married is being hitched to the same wagon and it is hard to pull in one direction when they are pulling in another. That being said I think that you can create your own safe spaces and go for it! It’s wonderful to see your readiness and read your cheerleading! Hugs and a safe journey.