Comments on: Sex and the Midlife Mother: Taking the Teachable Moment

By: Laura

Laura — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 00:56:56 +0000

@Paula, I agree with you. They should be happy for us and they will hopefully learn about the full range of relationships available to us in all phases of life.

By: Paula

Paula — Mon, 07 Jun 2010 13:44:39 +0000

I think many older (over the age of 16?) children have seen their parent(s) arguing or not talking so seeing affection is probably a welcome sight and shows the balance of a relationship even if they perceive it as “icky”.

By: Laura

Laura — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 12:05:53 +0000

@Jeannie,
Well, admittedly this is not my first relationship so they’ve had some time.. But the ‘naturally repulsive’ which I think is a hilarious statement, probably has some truth to it! Alas if they only knew how much fun we were having!!!!

You offer some sage advice, thank you.

By: Jeannie

Jeannie — Fri, 23 Apr 2010 05:43:24 +0000

Hi Laura,

I’m inspired by the way you transformed yourself. I don’t think you need to worry about your boys accepting your newfound sexiness. It’s something that is naturally repulsive to children. Bringing a new man (a year ago) into the house and expecting them to accept their mother as a sexual being after watching her in a completely different role with their father during the previous years … there is a wall that they have hit and need to overcome, and that won’t happen overnight. Just be glad they’re happy for you. Continue to proceed cautiously as you have been with the bed and other things–you are being respectful of them and that is good. In time as they mature, by witnessing your new relationship, they will become accustomed to your new role and then the old you will dissolve in their minds and they will embrace more fully the new you and how a loving relationship should be. Give it time.

By: Laura

Laura — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 15:30:30 +0000

Jill.. thanks for coming by.
I think you’re absolutely right about the wrinkles and sags. I must admit to a prejudice about that myself, even with my many sags! As long as society, magazines, media, etc.. emphasize skinny, airbrushed youthful models that attitude will prevail.

By: just jill

just jill — Tue, 20 Apr 2010 15:14:12 +0000

The first to comment! It’s funny how we all react to “older than us”
sex as being “icky”. It must have to do with the fact of the aging body and how most of us don’t caress the idea of wrinkles and sags like we do the idea of soft and supple. Until we’re actually “there” it’s hard to relate and understand the beauty and appeal, not to mention the real meaning of love.