Comments on: The Dreaded Decision: Putting a Parent in a Nursing Home

By: Geomarc13

Geomarc13 — Tue, 25 Oct 2011 08:52:00 +0000

Make sure you got the best nursing home for our grandparents. _____________________ Nursing Homes in Melbourne

By: jerzy

jerzy — Wed, 28 Sep 2011 06:10:00 +0000

Let the elderly choose the right nursing home for them. Let them feel that they are welcome and well cared of. Nursing Homes Melbourne

By: Jcwright2010

Jcwright2010 — Sun, 31 Jul 2011 18:33:00 +0000

We just put my mom in a nursing home this past weekend and I know it is a good place for her and a good nursing home.I know she will be better off there with all of the nurses and someone watching her.I am feeling grief and guilt at the same time because I feel like I should be there for her.I am 5 hours away in another state.This is hard for me to deal with.

By: Walker

Walker — Sat, 16 Oct 2010 13:35:09 +0000

What a great post, and informative too. I would also suggest people go to the Medicare website and do a nursing home search, http://www.medicare.gov/nursing/overview.asp. It will show complaints and other important rankings. Several years ago my sons and I had to put my ex-husband, who I care for, in assisted living. So, I totally understand your reservations. It is challenging and it is expensive and there are still times when I have to do things that I really thought I was paying to have taken care of!

Thanks for this story.

By: Flora

Flora — Thu, 14 Oct 2010 03:51:19 +0000

@Gerry Hogan, Yes, guilt and relief, all on top of the grief of loss.

By: Evelyn Snow

Evelyn Snow — Wed, 13 Oct 2010 20:06:43 +0000

@Gerry Hogan, Thanks for the comment Gerry. There are different sacrifices we must make for our loved ones, and I suppose there is guilt either way.

Thanks for the book suggestion, I will check it out.

By: Gerry Hogan

Gerry Hogan — Wed, 13 Oct 2010 00:17:35 +0000

Your Dad is fortunate to have a thinking caring daughter and you are fortunate to have your spouse back you and help.
Gail Sheehy has a new book out – Passages in Caregiving – should be mandatory reading for all of approaching an age when we might need care and for those of us who may become care givers.
My husband died almost six years ago after two years battling cancer – one request he made of me was that I not “put him in a home”. I honored that request but don’t minimize the toll that caring for him took on me. I recently spent time with an old friend who became her sister’s care giver – we shared stories of our guilt over the relief we felt when death finally came. It’s not something many of us talk about – makes us feel selfish.
Good luck. You’ve made a wise and caring decision.

By: Evelyn Snow

Evelyn Snow — Tue, 12 Oct 2010 18:01:25 +0000

@DuchessOmnium, Thanks for the comment. That’s exactly the position I’m in, with my kids in highschool at the moment.

I’ve never heard the term “knackers yard” before. I believe we’ve just simplified it to “the glue factory”.