Comments on: Planning For The Rest of My Life

By: Walker

Walker — Wed, 27 Oct 2010 21:58:33 +0000

@DuchessOmnium, Thanks, I think many of us have similar thoughts and needs/wishes-it’s part of why I write about things that are personal. When we know we’re not alone it makes life easier! Or maybe less stressful?

By: DuchessOmnium

DuchessOmnium — Wed, 27 Oct 2010 19:19:21 +0000

Brava, Walker! There is so much in your resolutions, and business plan, that I recognize, and want for myself too.

By: Walker

Walker — Tue, 26 Oct 2010 18:42:51 +0000

@John Hayden, Sigh, back at you! Men, tsk, tsk!

It’s not the pushup bra that makes one look foolish…it might be the whole trying to look sexy as a planned act-trying too hard!

By: John Hayden

John Hayden — Tue, 26 Oct 2010 15:55:26 +0000

I applaud your approach to setting both boundaries and goals regarding relationships.

However, I do hope you’ll reconsider your decision about “not wearing the pushup bra.” (Sigh) In my male opinion, a pushup bra does not make a woman look foolish.

By: Walker

Walker — Tue, 26 Oct 2010 15:05:38 +0000

@Risa,
Hi Risa, Thank you for the kind words. I understand what you mean about keeping a relationship nonsexual and in fact, my last relationship goes on record for being the longest I’d dated someone before having sex! 12 Dates, STD testing and a lot of conversation.

I’m taking things one day at a time and if or when a man appears I’ll know what feels right.

By: Walker

Walker — Tue, 26 Oct 2010 14:57:19 +0000

@Flora, It sounds as if you’ve crafted a very nice life. Love the short leash/long commitment phrase. I’m not the least bit interested in a short leash!!

Thanks so much for commenting.

By: Risa

Risa — Tue, 26 Oct 2010 14:21:36 +0000

Hello Walker,
It sounds to me like you have a lot going for you, not the least of which are honesty and courage. You have set some good boundaries as far as your relationships go and you are giving yourself space to gain clarity. If you can keep your relationships non-sexual until you BOTH are ready, I think you will increase your ability to build the relationship you seek. I honor your progress and your journey. Thanks for sharing here.

By: Flora

Flora — Tue, 26 Oct 2010 13:53:02 +0000

Success to you on your new life plan, Walker! You’re on the right track in the relationship part. You’ve survived the right man at the wrong time and the wrong men at other times and you’ve unplugged the internet dating sites while your self-esteem is still intact. I’ve been widowed for 5+ years, at first desperately searching for my lost half in every man I met, then accepting that I can only depend on myself for happiness. Now I’ve developed some good and strong friendships with other women–single and married–and I never have a boring weekend. My friends and I travel, go out and about around town trying new restaurants or planning “cheap thrills” shopping trips at consignment and thrift stores. Often we just meet at one another’s place for a game of Scrabble or dominoes, good movie or to just talk over a bottle of wine. I doubt that I’ll ever marry again, am not really looking for a live-in relationship–I’m having too much fun with the girls! When I do meet a guy, I let be known from he start that I don’t like short leashes or long committments. Ironically, that seems to make me more attractive to men.