Comments on: The Midlife Man’s Guide To Dealing With Siblings http://midlifebloggers.com/2012/09/09/the-midlife-mans-guide-to-dealing-with-siblings/ Making The Most of MidLife--Together Sat, 13 Oct 2012 20:32:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.2 By: Lynne Spreen http://midlifebloggers.com/2012/09/09/the-midlife-mans-guide-to-dealing-with-siblings/comment-page-1/#comment-9440 Lynne Spreen Wed, 26 Sep 2012 15:17:00 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=6592#comment-9440 Jeremy, I'm sorry I forgot to come back and check this. Thanks for your response. I like your idea of letting go, so as not to cause her to retreat. That's really smart. Also the Clooney comment. Best wishes. Jeremy, I’m sorry I forgot to come back and check this. Thanks for your response. I like your idea of letting go, so as not to cause her to retreat. That’s really smart. Also the Clooney comment. Best wishes.

]]> By: Flamingo Dancer http://midlifebloggers.com/2012/09/09/the-midlife-mans-guide-to-dealing-with-siblings/comment-page-1/#comment-9437 Flamingo Dancer Tue, 25 Sep 2012 10:52:00 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=6592#comment-9437 It always amuses me that no matter what age we are, that as soon as we are with siblings we return to our roles of childhood. Nothing ever seems to change. It always amuses me that no matter what age we are, that as soon as we are with siblings we return to our roles of childhood. Nothing ever seems to change.

]]> By: J.Delancy http://midlifebloggers.com/2012/09/09/the-midlife-mans-guide-to-dealing-with-siblings/comment-page-1/#comment-9398 J.Delancy Tue, 11 Sep 2012 13:27:00 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=6592#comment-9398 Dear Lynne, It is easier said than done. It's an ongoing process. My sister and I have been trying to get along as adults for almost 20 years. I'm guessing you're the older sibling, if so, try some Acceptance. The more you pursue the faster he/she will retreat. Set aside your agenda and frustration then chill. Also realize a simple fact, if making people (even our family) love us the way we want to be loved were possible, George Clooney wouldn't be single. I sincerely hope this helps. Keep hope and All The Best. Dear Lynne,
It is easier said than done. It’s an ongoing process. My sister and I have been trying to get along as adults for almost 20 years. I’m guessing you’re the older sibling, if so, try some Acceptance. The more you pursue the faster he/she will retreat.
Set aside your agenda and frustration then chill. Also realize a simple fact, if making people (even our family) love us the way we want to be loved were possible, George Clooney wouldn’t be single.

I sincerely hope this helps.

Keep hope and All The Best.

]]> By: J. Delancy http://midlifebloggers.com/2012/09/09/the-midlife-mans-guide-to-dealing-with-siblings/comment-page-1/#comment-9397 J. Delancy Tue, 11 Sep 2012 13:09:00 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=6592#comment-9397 Thanks for the back-up on this one. If the therapist can work his magic over the internet I have a some family members I'd like to refer. Your last post over on www.thedivaofdating.com was a good one. I over-think the problem of what to wear everytime I go out. Thanks for the back-up on this one. If the therapist can work his magic over the internet I have a some family members I’d like to refer.
Your last post over on http://www.thedivaofdating.com was a good one. I over-think the problem of what to wear everytime I go out.

]]> By: Walker http://midlifebloggers.com/2012/09/09/the-midlife-mans-guide-to-dealing-with-siblings/comment-page-1/#comment-9396 Walker Tue, 11 Sep 2012 10:42:00 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=6592#comment-9396 As the oldest of 5 I learned years ago, with the help of a good therapist, that i couldn't and wouldn't get involved in their lives. I keep my mouth shut and I offer support if asked. Four of us get along quite nicely. As for the 5th? Practicing acceptance is a good suggestion! As the oldest of 5 I learned years ago, with the help of a good therapist, that i couldn’t and wouldn’t get involved in their lives. I keep my mouth shut and I offer support if asked. Four of us get along quite nicely. As for the 5th? Practicing acceptance is a good suggestion!

]]> By: Lynne Spreen http://midlifebloggers.com/2012/09/09/the-midlife-mans-guide-to-dealing-with-siblings/comment-page-1/#comment-9395 Lynne Spreen Mon, 10 Sep 2012 20:04:00 +0000 http://midlifebloggers.com/?p=6592#comment-9395 Easier said than done. What if you love them but wouldn't interact if they weren't family? I'm 58, so I'm pretty far along in the process of figuring out strategies for life in general, but in this case, I can't seem to give up hope that things will improve, and then when they inevitably don't, I get frustrated at the time I wasted. Life would be so much easier if we had more distance! Easier said than done. What if you love them but wouldn’t interact if they weren’t family? I’m 58, so I’m pretty far along in the process of figuring out strategies for life in general, but in this case, I can’t seem to give up hope that things will improve, and then when they inevitably don’t, I get frustrated at the time I wasted. Life would be so much easier if we had more distance!

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