Is Pink Viagra in Your Future?

by Walker Thornton of A Woman’s Page 

 

Pink ViagraMen are really simple when it comes to sex. They see a woman, they get an erection, they want sex. It’s basic, pretty much guilt- and thought- free until, heavens forbid, it won’t get hard! Then it’s like a natural disaster.

We know the good ole boys take care of their peeps, so the moment a drug was discovered to remedy the situation, it was a done deal. Men now have Viagra, Cialis and Levitra. And, in many cases their healthcare plan even pays for it (while some women still have to pay out of pocket expenses for birth control)!

What do women have? Drug-induced penises at the ready and waiting, even if we don’t want them! Men can now successfully achieve erections into their 80’s and 90’s. And they’re looking for younger and younger women to try out this newly re-acquired sexual prowess.

But what about us? Do we want a pill; do we need it? Is decreased sexual libido a significant problem for a large percentage of women or is it a societally-imposed label? The “problem” has its own clinical diagnosis and is referred to as a dysfunction, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a widespread problem, or one that can be “fixed” with a pill.

Women are complex creatures when it comes to sexuality, and understanding what drives us is not a cut and dried answer. For many of us, the desire for sexual contact starts in the brain rather than in the genitals. We are more emotion driven and therefore more sensitive to all the factors that come into play when two people contemplate sex. We want connection, maybe commitment, we want to be stimulated before intercourse and cuddled afterwards. And, sometimes the person we’re in bed with just ain’t doing a good enough job. There’s no drug to fix that.

The FDA has been experimenting with flibanserina new drug originally used for depression, as a possible cure for what ails us girls. The issue is controversial, as is the drug. For me the question is whether this new “pink Viagra” is really going to help women who experience low sexual desire?

It’s just not that simple. Even at my most ramped up, oozing with desire, there will inevitably be men I do not want to have sex with, or times when I’m just too tired, irritated or overworked to fool with the whole me Tarzan, you Jane thing. It might be simpler to take my pretty little pink vibrator off to the bedroom and satisfy myself. That at least is a sure thing.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/kathleenlwalker Kathy Hicks Walker

    I do think there could be a use for the pretty pink pill. There are a lot of medications out there such as anti-depressants that zap the old sex drive – in the instance – I think it could be a positive in that respect. You are correct though – for a woman – it takes a lot more than a pill to get us in the mood!

    • http://www.thedivaofdating.com/ Walker

      Kathy,
      You’re right about the effects of medications on libido…for both sexes. If a pill could help women by all means. What really needs to happen is for medical researchers to start focusing on women and their needs..not just the men!

  • southmainmuse

    Okay. I might be terribly old school. But most women don’t just have a “roll in the hay” without trying to take/make some emotional attachment with it. No matter how sexually-liberated they imagine themselves to be. I do think men are much more driven by the act of sex than women. And I would love a pill some nights, just sayin.

    • http://www.thedivaofdating.com/ Walker

      I hear ya… I need some kind of emotional attachment if I want to achieve any sort of physical satisfaction. I can have fun, but …that’s why, in the end, the vibrator offers a nice neat little package sometimes.

  • Mark

    Sorry, but as a man who wants all this as well … “For many of us, the desire for sexual contact starts in the brain rather
    than in the genitals. We are more emotion driven and therefore more
    sensitive to all the factors that come into play when two people
    contemplate sex. We want connection, maybe commitment, we want to be
    stimulated before intercourse and cuddled afterwards.” … this post is filled with stereotypical conclusions about men and women. I’ve pretty much had it with these stereotypes.

    • http://www.thedivaofdating.com/ Walker

      Mark,
      I’m sorry you find this offensive.I do believe and could find supporting research that women need emotional attachment or mental stimulation. When I say we are ‘more…’ that does not imply that we are ‘more than’ men.
      Each person, male and female has a different response and approach to sex..there is no real way to write any opinion piece that will satisfy everyone. You obviously missed the gentle hint of humor in my essay.

    • http://www.facebook.com/kathleenlwalker Kathy Hicks Walker

      I don’t think it necessarily stereotyping. Now there are exceptions to every rule and I am sure there are men out there that do crave the mental stimulation and connection before “sexy time”. As a general rule though men are tend to be stimulated by imagery and women mentally. Why else would porn sites and magazines do so well with men, and 50 Shades of Grey be in the hands of every woman in the know? Women send flirty texts, men send pictures of their manhood. As a veteran of online dating – I can tell you from experience – the guy who is ready to hook up at a moments notice is a lot more prevalent than the guy who wants to take me to dinner!

      • Mark

        As far as I’m concerned stereotypes provide us with an excuse to reach conclusions about people rather than treating them as the individuals they are. It’s easier that way and excuses people from doing the hard work of figuring out the reality of the individual. You’re a man, therefore, you’re this and I’ll prepare based on that. Instead of, you’re a human being who is entitled to be viewed as you are and how you feel and what you need … because that’s too difficult, that would require me to adjust on the fly and adjust myself to the reality of the person standing in front of me.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=710131470 Mary Lou Floyd

    And sometimes a mindless “roll in the hay” is satisfying for women too. I think younger women call it “friends with benefits”. Commitment isn’t required although a connection is nice. Thanks.

    • http://www.thedivaofdating.com/ Walker

      I agree. I had a fob relationship for a while with a guy I’d dated. We didn’t see each other as long term partners but decided to continue seeing each other as friends…and for the sex. I stopped it because I couldn’t bring the right type of attitude and energy to our sex knowing that he saw it as a ‘something’s better than nothing’ while he (and I) searched for the right person. We’re still friends.

  • Haralee

    I used to sell a prescription vaginal cream that I would ask doctors to recommend when prescribing an ED drug to men. Think of their partners is all I would ask!

    • http://www.thedivaofdating.com/ Walker

      Great marketing message! I think it’s important to talk about sexual libido in the context of both parties. Because if one is lagging in desire, it impacts both. To state the obvious!

  • http://www.thedivaofdating.com/ Walker

    @FirstClassWoman-Thanks. But you know there are times when planning is a good thing. And fun. Spending a whole day in anticipation of a fun interlude is like foreplay amplified.
    If a partner has issues w/ ED, getting time for a pill to kick in is important too. Planning to me indicates a desire to embrace sexuality and bring it into my life.

  • FirstClassWoman

    Very funny, I loved the part where even if you’ve figured out what to do to you might not feel like doing it at that particular moment. It’s a bit sad that we have to plan things so much to have a good time-

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