Comments on: If You’re A Woman With Something to Say, Speak Up, dammit

By: Jane Gassner

Jane Gassner — Tue, 23 Apr 2013 19:30:00 +0000

But, Maryann, it is so much easier just to blame the world. One can wrap oneself in a cozy blanket of victimhood!

By: Maryann Candito

Maryann Candito — Tue, 23 Apr 2013 19:01:00 +0000

Thank you Jane, I couldn’t agree more…I have this part of me that wants to just shout to everyone out there – it’s your life dammit, go out and create it, manifest it, attract to you everything you want, including financial freedom- you have that ability! Stop whining and saying ___is not working for me- figure out why it’s not working and make it work! It takes action, clearing our old patterns and adopting a “failure in not an option” attitude. Thank you again Jane!

By: Jane Gassner

Jane Gassner — Tue, 16 Apr 2013 18:48:00 +0000

The next conference more than made up for the disappointment of the first one, Laur.

By: Jane Gassner

Jane Gassner — Tue, 16 Apr 2013 18:47:00 +0000

Thanks for the link, Lynne. I’ll have a look and check out the Sandbergs films as well. That comment that you found one film to be empowering and chilling has me really really curious!

By: Jane Gassner

Jane Gassner — Tue, 16 Apr 2013 18:43:00 +0000

I really feel bad calling out the Minnie Mouses, Elizabeth B, because I’m not sure how much of that is vocal chords and how much is habit. However, I can name a number of prominent women who project authority and confidence despite sounding like Minnie. Kristen Chenoweth is one, and I’m sure it’s not coincidence that she’s an actor/singer for whom projection is a way of life.

By: Elizabeth B

Elizabeth B — Tue, 16 Apr 2013 15:18:00 +0000

Thank you! I am sick to death of hearing women sound like Minnie Mouse. We can’t be taken seriously if we sound like children or cartoon characters.

By: Lynne Spreen

Lynne Spreen — Tue, 16 Apr 2013 12:41:00 +0000

You are so right! I agree, and further, I think invisibility after 50 is partly self-inflicted for many of the same reasons. Am I blaming the victim? Yes, but she’s not completely powerless. Per the Power and Influence training film (see link), at about the 12-minute mark, Professor Gruenfeld says women are socialized to project lower-status body language, and further, that 93% of your presentation is body language. A bad combo. Check it out: http://leanin.org/education/ PS Sheryl Sandberg offers these CEO-level 20-minute training films for free if you’re interested. I found the Power and Influence one to be empowering, if kind of chilling.

By: Laurie Kennedy

Laurie Kennedy — Tue, 16 Apr 2013 02:11:00 +0000

A wonderful article. It reminds me of, ironically–or not ironically but what ever–Margaret Thatcher–who had an unfortunate voice and was told that she did and she took lessons to lower her voice. And of course she spoke slowly and with authority in spite of her views which I found distasteful. I’m sorry– I know how excited you were to go to this conference–at least the first day was good. But yeah you are not marketing tea bags or baby towels. I hope your next conference goes better. Will call later this week. Living in the world of Pinter right now who i’ve become very fond of. Love you Laur