Comments on: For My 50th Birthday, I Want…

By: VaBeachMom

VaBeachMom — Sat, 26 Apr 2014 13:41:00 +0000

This article resonates with me. The poster below is correct. It is often years and years of family first to the point where they DO believe you live on hugs and kind words. On most days, the hugs do keep me going. I turned 50 last October and I am still angry about the “celebration” cough cough. It was a milestone to me. I had just safely delivered child #1 to college (meaning I did all of the college visit, selection work, etc. not my husband. No, I am not a SAHM) I was very clear that I wanted some kind of festivity or acknowledgement but did not want to plan my own event. I made it clear that in exchange for two decades of dedication and maid service, I wanted a DAY OFF. My husband mentioned two weeks before my birthday that he hadn’t made any plans. Nice. His statement “I am not a planner” was a cop out. He runs a multi million dollar company and directs the actions of 125 employees and negotiates high dollar equipment purchases. PLEEAAASSE! A week before my birthday , he offered an overnight stay at a bed and breakfast. Hmmm. Fulfills some of the requirements, right? Problem number one – zero effort, ten minutes on the internet. Problem number two – he chose a place four hours from our home and said we could do one night. He did zero research into things to do (it’s wine country, there are things to do ) I had just finished my son’s travel lacrosse season which meant criss crossing the entire Southeast from Pa/MD down to North Carolina all summer and fall for weekend tournaments. Travel 8 hours total for an overnight visit? No thank you. ! So what happened? Since he made the nominal effort, he felt he was off the hook. I ordered a cake and got a bottle of Prosecco, both of which I had for breakfast on my birthday. I didn’t schedule any early client appointments. Husband came home and threw a gift in my lap which was a laptop. Ironically, my husband has a mac and an Ipad, my kids each have laptops and tablets and I was using a ten year old POS desktop. He said he would take me to dinner. We ended up at Ruby Tuesdays. I went to bed at 9:30. I think there are a million things he could have done to facilitate a day off but oh well. We never speak of it. A friend of hours just planned and booked a 7 day cruise for his 50th. It is hilarious when he talks about it in front of us. My husband keeps looking at me like I’m going to blow up. I should have planned my own day after all.

By: Kate

Kate — Sat, 29 Mar 2014 16:06:00 +0000

Just found out it’s going to be 35 degrees and snowing on my birthday. Cancun’s forecast is 85 degrees and sunny. My big accomplishment for the day will be to make a fire and have a warm house. Blah.

By: Kate

Kate — Fri, 28 Mar 2014 15:10:00 +0000

My 50th is next week. I am a single mom, struggling with finances and feel pretty low about where I am in life. My daughter went to my mom’s for spring break and I immediately got sick. My three dogs got sick too. There went the money for the party I created by myself for me. Then my laptop got stolen and I found out my car needs over $1K in maintenance and repairs. I was supposed to be in Mexico for my birthday but that didn’t quite work out either. My mother keeps telling me that I am a mom and I should just be happy for that, basically that I shouldn’t want anything else. I just canceled the party. I invited people that I like but never see in real life, so it doesn’t feel that bad. I am going to turn my phone off and hope it’s not snowing so I can go on a hike with my daughter. Then we’ll grab a bite to eat and get a piece of cake, a kind I don’t even like. I can’t wait until this day has come and gone.

By: Toaster

Toaster — Sat, 04 Jan 2014 14:24:00 +0000

Tomorrow is my 50th birthday, I feel the same way,I don’t want to plan my own birthday party!…..I consider my 50th a milestone, unfortunately my girlfriend is hurting for cash even though she asks me what I want to do on my Bday, I said I want to be on a beach done where,but I don’t expect much, but it would gave been nice to have had some sort of get together with friends or family…..so I’ll chalk up another birthday to sitting around watching the tube!…..hahahahaha……

By: Carol Lea

Carol Lea — Fri, 03 Jan 2014 23:08:00 +0000

My 50th birthday was Dec. 26th. My second oldest daughter got into a big fight with us 2 weeks before Christmas and my youngest daughter did on Christmas Day. Well, like usual, everyone got everything they wanted for Christmas! I have 4 kids; 3 girls ages 26, 21, and 20 and a son 17. I told them I didn’t want anything . . . but did I mean it? My husband came to me a week before my birthday and said “I just need you to cook up 3 pans of your lasagna, meatballs and sausage and a big salad. I’ll do the rest.” I couldn’t believe it! I have thrown a birthday party every year without them asking for one! I’ve even thrown my daughters who has been out of the house for 4 years and my grandson who is 3!! You think anyone could get their act together? No!!! I’ve been extremely depressed ever since. And I usually am after New Years anyways. . . .

By: Suzanne Fluhr (JustOneBoomer)

Suzanne Fluhr (JustOneBoomer) — Tue, 26 Nov 2013 22:01:00 +0000

Plan a girlfriend getaway with some other girlfriends turning 50 or 50ish. Celebrate your marvelousness with others who “get” it and “get” you.

By: Rhonda Strong

Rhonda Strong — Tue, 26 Nov 2013 16:51:00 +0000

Alas, it seems that the women below are correct, as are you. If we want a proper hooplah, we have to plan it ourselves. How did your birthday turn out, anyway? Was there proper obeisance? Or pizza?
I planned my own, but my sweetie helped to make it happen – a big party in the barn. It helped that the celebration doubled as a back to school party, though.

By: Ann Odle

Ann Odle — Sun, 24 Nov 2013 15:54:00 +0000

Me? I’d plan the party, invite my friends (and maybe not the familyf?!) and have a blast! I hope all your birthday wishes come true; but I’ve found that in the last 15 years–if there’s something I want, I just go and get it/do it/plan it myself. At least that way, I know its going to be right.