Bits & Pieces: My Pushke Box & other tales of contemporary Jewish life

My Pushke Box.

Pushke BoxesMaybe you have to be a Jew of a certain age to know what a pushke (pronounced pushkee) box is. Maybe they don’t even call them that anymore, these banks in which Jews deposit change to give to Israel and other related causes. Tikkun Olam is the commandment for all Jews to do their part to heal the world. It’s integral to the religion and charitable giving is one way it is accomplished. Thus, the pushke boxes, which are ubiquitous and prominent at the cash register of every Jewish retail establishment.

My pushke box

My pushke box was given to me by my daughter-in-law. She had no idea what it was, just that it was a bank and it had Hebrew on it. That was enough for her to think–great, my Jewish mother-in-law will like this. I did. Sort of. I liked the idea of her thinking of me. And I love the idea of Tikkun Olam. So I put my pushke box on my desk and whenever I found spare change, I’d drop it in. It is, now, full.

Trouble is, there’s many a slip between cup and lip, not to mention the best of intentions, etc. etc. etc.  My pushke box has been full for several years now and still it sits waiting to fulfill the mitzvot.

If I were a good Jew, I would simply drop the contents off at my synagogue. But that would assume I had a synagogue, which I don’t, which is why I’m not a good Jew. Or I’d pack up the contents (perhaps exchanging the heavy coins for some crisp bills) and send it to the Jewish National Fund, who are, after all, the mainstay of the pushkes. But I’m not a good Jew. So my pushke box sits here, stuffed to the gills with coins, while in Israel, children go hungry and trees go without planting.

 Jewish Identity & Grocery Stores

Chanukah in Elk GroveEvery year at the Passover seder, we vow “next year we will all be in Israel.”It’s a part of the service that reminds us that we’re all, those of us who don’t live in Israel, wandering Jews. I have, over the years, wandered to some very goyishe places, not the least of which was Amador County, where the only other Jews were the dead ones in the 19th century Gold Rush era cemetary.

A close second, perhaps, was Elk Grove and last year I mourned the absolute dearth of foodstuffs for Jewish holidays, which was exemplified by this pathetic offering at my local Nugget market. It is true that when you don’t see yourself reflected in the culture of your surroundings, you do feel marginalized.

This year, however, I am in Los Angeles, and no one’s putting Baby in the corner in LA. My local Gelson’s, which is the equivalent of Nugget, published this as their weekly ad. This is a store who takes their Jews seriously.Gelson's Passover Ad

  • Jay

    I spent some serious childhood time trying to figure out how to get the money out of our family’s pushke. No luck, fortunately. Loved the map though….seems like they always had the map to remind you of where the dough was supposed to go.

    • MidLifeBloggers

      Jay, I wonder how they did get the money out. Did they hand the whole tin over and someone used a can opener? Or was there some secret latch that we kids didn’t know about.

      • Jay

        My recollection is that there was key to unlock the little door flap on the bottom. Maybe my mother got the deluxe model.

  • Donna

    I can totally relate to this. I am not a good Jew either, but am grateful to live in Los Angeles, where I can feel as connected to the community as I want to be. Welcome back. Now, if only I can get my sister back here too.

    • http://midlifebloggers.com janegassner

      Thanks, Donna. Part of the reason I came back is so that I could feel part of the crowd again. Even though I don’t do anything with it.

  • Anita

    There’s a lot of beauty in cultural traditions and differences; however, many of us struggle with how connected we really are with the rituals. Just when I think I’m a good Christian, somebody shows me up by going to church 2 or 3 times a week in comparison to my 1 time; or various other things that tradition and our Bibles, Torahs, and Qurans say we should do. I take solace in knowing that I still respect the things and ways of God, like your treasured Pushke Box. Thanks for sharing your feelings. Now I know what a Pushke Box is. :)

    • http://midlifebloggers.com janegassner

      We all have to do it the way that feels best to us, Anita!

  • longhollow

    Thanks for sharing this nugget of your heritage, Jane. Growing up, the only Jews I knew were characters in the Leon Uris books I loved!

    • http://midlifebloggers.com janegassner

      Where did you grow up? Could have been any of the places where I was the only Jew around. I’ve spent more time in churches than synagogues.

  • http://twitter.com/AFadedGinger Ginger Kay

    Could you give the contents of your Pushke to a local charity which you wish to support? It’s not Israel, but it’s better than sitting unused on your desk.

    • http://midlifebloggers.com janegassner

      Good idea, Ginger Kay. I wonder what God would think of my donating the contents of the pushke to an animal rights fund.

  • http://twitter.com/GenFabulous GenerationFabulous

    I loved reading this! What a great tradition, Jane.

    • http://midlifebloggers.com janegassner

      Thanks, GenFab!

  • http://www.blog.lisaweldon.com/about lisaweldon

    I teach 5th and 6th graders at Sunday School and we’re studying Israel’s Exodus from Egypt. We had a great Methodist-style Passover seder meal this past Sunday. One of my smart aleck kids busted me – I thought I could slip in pork chop for lamb.

    • http://midlifebloggers.com janegassner

      Oh JHC! It’s gotta be the shank bone, lady, although in a pinch, a chicken bone will do. But pork? Next you’ll be tell me is that you served cream gravy with the chop!

      • http://www.blog.lisaweldon.com/about lisaweldon

        No, hell no. Next time I’m bringing all these 5th and 6th graders to YOUR house!

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