Menopause Has Stolen My Brain!

by Janis Smyth of Jan’s Sushi Bar

When I posted on my blog that I was having trouble writing because of the brain fog that so often accompanies the whole menopause experience, Jane asked if I’d write about what it feels like for MidLifeBloggers.com. I said “Of course!” I mean, no time like while you’re experiencing it to describe it, right? The problem is, brain fog often discourages coherent thinking, much less writing. But I’ll give it my best shot.

For me it often accompanies other symptoms of perimenopause, most notably night sweats, insomnia and the ever-popular non-existent sex drive (heavy on the sarcasm with that last one). Not always, though; I’ve slept like the dead the last couple of nights, and woke up feeling like a zombie. I still feel like a zombie and can only wonder if George Romero needs any subject matter. Or maybe Richard Matheson. I Am Menopausal – now there’s a horror story for you.

I don’t have a headache, although it feels as if I’m on the verge of one. My eyeballs feel like they’ve been wrapped in wool and my head as if it’s been stuffed full of cotton. I can’t really concentrate on any one thing for more than a few minutes. Making a decision about even minor stuff feels overwhelming, and the simplest tasks seem daunting. I am completely unmotivated to do anything more demanding than discovering how many times my office chair will spin around until it falls completely off of its base.

You know what it really feels like? It feels like my brain has hired a temp to take messages while it’s gone on vacation. I mean, I cleaned out my purse today. (Ancient, sticky root beer barrel anyone?) If that doesn’t tell you about my state of mind – or lack thereof – then nothing will.

Have the hormones stolen your brain as well? What does it feel like to you? Does anything help?

  • Corinna

    Occasionally I’ll get a moment of clarity while working on a story in the newsroom only to be overtaken by a hot flash that races up my neck to the top of my scalp. It’s then that my much-young co-workers hear my little fan go on — about 8 or 9 times a day. Sometimes I find it hard to compile all my notes on even the most simple story. I feel like my head is a dryer and there are soggy clothes inside, going round and round. Oh, and I’m tired because I lay awake from 3 to 6 a.m. for no apparent reason. Does anyone else feel an increase in anxiety and worry?

    • http://midlifebloggers.com janegassner

      Corinna,
      I have one word for you: soy. I had the same kind of flashes and now that I use soy milk instead of regular milk, I haven’t had them.

  • http://www.chilitechnology.com/ Jennifer

    I realized that getting a full night’s sleep really helped my menopause brain fog so I put a lot of resources towards that. I get regular acupuncture, take some Chinese herbs, and use one of these to cool my bed at night: ChiliPad I’ve also gone on an all organic whole food diet – and eliminated sugar, caffeine, alcohol, and refined flour. So far I think I have it managed, but I’m not 100% yet. Just wondering what else people are doing as I’m always looking for suggestions.

  • http://www.flickr.com/photos/susanmyrland/ susan m

    on the other hand… I just checked your blog. You have a teenager. That’s reason enough to be cranky and tired! :-)

  • http://www.flickr.com/photos/susanmyrland/ susan m

    Lynn — I’m no expert but what I’ve read about pre-menopause is that hormones can fluctuate pretty wildly — so you can be fine one day and totally out of whack a week later. I started showing some signs a few years ago, around age 44 or 45. My ob-gyn completely dismissed it with “You’re too young.” I got myself a new ob-gyn. The new doc did a total workup and, although my hormones were within the normal range, they were a little on the low side. She prescribed an overall women’s health supplement, boosted my iron intake and put me on a low dose of DHEA. It really helped.

  • http://korfforiginals.blogspot.com Lynn K.

    My mom swears she never had any symptoms of menopause either….but she was always in a bad mood for as long as I can remember, and it just could slipped right in there and we never would have noticed. (sigh)

    I wish I was pre menopause or something hormonal….something that would explain the tiredness, the moodiness, the depression. But the Dr. says my hormones are fine. I guess I am just cranky….and tired.

  • http://adifferentnest.blogspot.com Carol

    Oops; ignore that last paragraph of my above post. I was cutting and pasting – I’m so busted!!!

  • http://adifferentnest.blogspot.com Carol

    I suggest you take a look at “Carved in Sand: When Attention Fails and Memory Fades in Midlife” by Chathryn Jakobson Ramin. It explores the role of neurology, biology and stress in midlife forgetfulness and diminished attention. The book details the author’s various interventions to combat her own “spaciness” and offers suggestions for improving your memory and focus.

    The book doesn’t specifically target menopause, but there is a chapter on hormones, etc. I really enjoyed it.

    A fascinating book that explores the role of neurology, biology and stress in midlife memory and attention loss. The book details the author’s various interven

  • http://www.TwentyFourAtHeart.com TwentyFourAtHeart

    All right ladies – what do I have to look forward to? When does it start? I know everyone is different, but is it like magic on your 50th birthday or what? Yes, I am menopause-naive! Kind of think I like it that way. And this is the other thing I want to know — why is my friend who is already going thru it getting all fuzzy on her face? And what the HELL do you do about that?! Cuz I really don’t think I’d look so great sporting a mustache!

  • http://www.nannygoatsinpanties.com Margaret

    Hearing about menopause is like hearing about child labor. I don’t want to do it. I’ve succeeded in the latter, but apart from an untimely entrance into St. Peter’s gates or a rad’ ‘rectomy, how do I get out of the former?

  • byjane

    There are days when I feel VERY HEAVY. I have never attributed it hormones because…well, when I was in a bad mood before my period, I never attributed that to hormones either. No reason–just didn’t. It occurs to me now that I didn’t because my mother didn’t teach me to. She claimed she never had a symptom of menopause. Ha! I don’t believe that. I remember her being in a VERY BAD MOOD when she was in her 50s.

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