A Blogger’s Christmas in Sacramento
by Jane Gassner
Every year in the middle of December, I light a candle to celebrate the birth of my blog.
Six years. That’s how long I’ve been at it. I started when I lived in Los Angeles. I started when no one in my circle knew or cared what a blog was. I have, therefore, weathered a raft of disparaging remarks.
“Blogging? What’s that? Eyes glaze over.
“So you keep like a little online journal?” Earnest, but trying to understand.
“God, I would never do that. Why would I want everyone to know what I’m thinking?” Superior.
“The computer is killing communication, and you’re part of the problem.” Anger.
Los Angeles, considering it shares a state with Silicon Valley, was not too long in catching up with the tides of Web 2.0. Small pockets of bloggers formed, then larger ones and soon there was a Blogging Scene in LA. Of course, I had already left the city and moved to Sacramento. My participation in the Blogging Scene happened only when I was willing to make the trek to LA. That I actually drove the six plus hours to go to parties there is a testament to my need for community, for people who valued my enthusiasm about blogging. In Sacramento, despite its closer proximity to Silicon Valley, eyes were still glazing over when I said I was a blogger. My only partner in crime was Margaret of Nanny Goats in Panties, and we’d meet regularly at the Elk Grove Raley’s for coffee, cakes and endless conversation about her blog and my blog, about blogging in general and in particular and about how shamefully backward Sacramento was.
Well, no more. This year there is at last a Blogging Scene in Sacramento. As evidence of that, there are three (yes, 3!) holiday parties for bloggers and social media people. Last week, we floated down the river on the Hornblower for Sac Tweetup’s second annual HoliTweetup Party. A couple of nights ago, it was the Sac Bee’s Sacramento Connect Holiday Mixer at Hot Italian Pizza. And tonight is News10’s Blogger & Social Media Holiday Cheese and Cider Bash. Be still, my beating heart….
As much as I’m thrilled to have a Blogging Scene here, I feel less certain about the state and the fate of blogging in general. About now, you’re expecting me to offer a succinct sentence or two about why I feel uncertain. Except I can’t. Because I’m not sure what’s amiss in the blogosphere. All I can tell you is this: I’m not reading many blogs anymore.
I used to daily trawl through my Google Reader; now, it sits unlinked to for days. I think it’s because blogs are no longer a window into the blogger’s mind or heart or day to day stuff that enabled me to feel as if they were a friend whose life I was sharing albeit at a distance. Now blogs are a branding tool; they’re a vehicle for marketing one’s packaged self, the one that’s been constructed (often with the help of professional marketers) to appeal to one’s niche audience. As such, they must conform to the pre-determined parameters of the brand, and that quickly becomes boring, predictable, and–did I mention–boring.
So while I’m enjoying this holiday season that Sacramento finally has a Blogging Scene, but I’m not so sure it will be here in 2011.


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@Duchess– Since I share your love of parties, I did a little googling of “blogging Oxford England” and look what I came up with: http://www.expat-blog.com/en/directory/europe/england/oxford/
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I only blog to flex my writerly muscles, and my few readers may have noticed those muscles wasting. I am realistic enough to know that very few people make money and I have no expectations of anything of the sort. Mostly I just bang my head and wonder why anyone would be remotely interested — except that when I get brave enough to write, I find people ARE interested. I can’t account for that.
Meanwhile, a Bloggy Scene in Sacramento? Does this mean there might be one in Oxford (England)? Are there parties I am missing??? The Duchess loves parties.
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@Walker,
On the one hand, the mommybloggers ruined it; on the other, they created this space for women who blog for business. This is the devil in feminism: choices. If we didn’t have so many, we wouldn’t be confused!
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I definitely missed the blog boat, I guess- or maybe the south is REAAAAAAAAAAALy slow (although, now I realize really is an empty word that takes up space, and offers no meaning to my prose).
I love reading MidlifeBloggers. Jane, you will always be my mentor. You stand out in a crowd of mediocrity- rest assured I will never miss a post.One of my proud moments as a writer was the day you e-mailed me that you wanted to run one of my posts in MLB.
Blogging means many things to people- I cherish the opportunity it has giving me to interact with talented writers such as yourself and your readers. Hell, now most of my posts are about my jack russell terrier puppy, Sammy-
am I going up or down?
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byjane reply on December 17th, 2010 12:47 pm:
@ridgely,
If you Southerners didn’t add all those extra syllables to REAAAAAAAAAAAAALY, it wouldn’t take up all that dead space.
Thank you for your kind words…I’m standing here blushing and saying ‘aw shucks’ (in a Yankee intonation).
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I started in Feb. 2008 with an anonymous blog (delicacies.wordpress.com) and loved it. I said all and anything I wanted… but now the blog is under my real name as are the other 2 because I am working as a freelance writer and need the links and publicity. I’m caught between losing my ‘funny, sexy, midlife’ voice as I try to craft a “presence” out there for my writing. And this, my newest blog is suffering as a result.
Like Jane I don’t read as many blogs as I used to, though partly due to time management issues. But, ultimately the ones that do get read are ones with sincere thoughts and opinions, little pretentiousness and a desire to connect with their readers
I just found a local group of bloggers and will probably join, though it’s mostly a group of women who blog for business! And Mommy bloggers…oh God don’t get me started….
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As s mystery author who is bombarded hourly with requests to leave comments on the blogs of my fellow writers, I admit it’s turned into more of a homework assignment in support of my friends. On the other hand, there are those rare blogs such as yours which always provide me with a fresh dose of insight and humor.
As far as advice, keep on writing, blogging, and enjoying a glass of wine with friends. It keeps life interesting.
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byjane reply on December 16th, 2010 3:32 pm:
Cindy,
You too are running into the branding/marketing issue. Do you have any stats on how your commenting is creating sales for your book?
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Cindy Sample reply on December 16th, 2010 3:41 pm:
Hi Jane. I blog so infrequently myself that I always email everyone when I finally get around to writing one of my hilariously funny posts (no modesty here). I also announce it on my various writing loops. I check my Amazon ranking and I normally get 1 or 2 books that sell (either paperback or e-book). As far as comments, I probably get a few sales here and there. I just don’t think it’s the most effective use of my time when I could be selling books at a fun location like a winery!
By the way, I just posted a holiday blog: To Dip or not to Dip. If you comment, you can win a great cookbook titled “Killer Recipes.” Now who wouldn’t respond to that?
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Hi Jane,
Thank you for the insightful post. It asks a very important and interesting question.
I have been blogging now for over four years. I think, like you, I started blogging because of my passion for writing, connecting with others, and being real. It was easy to blog when only my close friends knew I “existed” online. Then, others started to find my space. In a community like Sacramento, where everyone knows everyone’s business, I didn’t know if I wanted people knowing my business.
I “branded” my blog about 18 months ago, thinking it would help me get more readers and perhaps even monetize at some point. I realized it made me not like writing or sharing as much. I began blogging for others when in fact I loved blogging for me first.
I’m still struggling with my blog. I don’t feel as safe there anymore. Not sure why.
Thanks for letting me share and for starting up the conversation.
Lesley
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byjane reply on December 16th, 2010 3:28 pm:
Lesley,
First–thanks for the link to the Pew research on the generational differences in internet usage. For me, the salient figures were the ones that placed blogging at the bottom of the list for all age groups. Here’s the link for others to follow:
http://mashable.com/2010/12/16/generations-internet-infographic/
Thinking about what you’ve said about your blog and how it’s changed for you: there have always been a lot of different reasons why people blog. What has happened, I think, is that the monetization reason has taken over. I have constantly struggled with what I want MidLifeBloggers to be. I’m glad I started this conversation too–although I didn’t realize I was going to.
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Yup. Yup. Yup.
Let’s not even get into commenting — who has the energy to keep up with the weird fights, sweepstakes entries and massive influx of opinions?
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byjane reply on December 16th, 2010 3:31 pm:
Helenjane–
Didn’t you just separate your personal blog from you brand blog? Or did I dream that? I’m trying to remember what you said about people who would still want to read HelenJane–damn, give me the quote, girl, it was good!
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Helen Jane reply on December 16th, 2010 3:50 pm:
It’s been a huge struggle on my brain the past year — when I started blogging it was just a few of us sharing our stories, now, I’m not quite sure I fit in.
Since I’ve developed some skills and a rather thick skin through the past decade, I figured it would be good to try commercialization, but not at the expense of my weird web hobby (sharing MY stories on the internet).
I giggle at all the folks who have it all figured out, because we are still babies here. Babies sharing stories.
“No giveaways or product reviews here, just whatever the heck I want to keep posting, the way it’s been (with a few stumbles and whatthehells) for the past 12 years.”
I love your site, btw.
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byjane reply on December 17th, 2010 12:44 pm:
The feeling is mutual, missy (can one call a mother of two missy these days?).