MidLifeBloggers Writers Workshop Update: Thinking About Process

This entry is part 3 of 3 in the series MidLifeBloggers Writers Workshop

IMG_1952The questionnaire I’m writing for the Writers Workshop participants is starting to have a life of its own. Perhaps I’m overdoing it. Or perhaps not.

What I’m going through in creating it is a mini lesson of its own on my process and how I sometimes stand smack in my own way. The urge for writing the

  • best
  • zappiest
  • most inclusive
  • information generating

survey is a daunting task. What is the ‘best’ such survey anyway? Should I be researching this? Getting expert opinion? Earning another degree in something like psych statistics? And ‘zappiest’–wtf does that mean? Is it even a word?

Here’s what I think I’m doing: I’m fomenting angst in order

  • to ensure I work as hard as I possibly can so that I can say I’ve done the best job with this that I’m capable of,

or

  • to make myself crazy with the unconscious object of giving me a reason to excuse a lackluster end product

I’m not sure which is true[er], but the fact that #2 even occurred to me gives me pause.

Failure is such an ugly state of being, so isn’t it common sense to try to avoid it? And doesn’t it seem reasonable that a good way to avoid failure is to avoid really trying to succeed?

Sound familiar to anyone? How do you  handle it? I’ll tell you some of my tricks and tips when the MidLifeBloggers Writers Workshop starts in the Fall.

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  • Deborah Lonergan

    Take a deep breath and keep saying over and over, “It is going to be fine”. The participants are big girls and boys. If they don’t like the workshop they can hitch up their big kid pants and move on.

  • southmainmuse

    This may or may not help — but reading this I thought of a roommate I had one summer in Atlanta. We were all law students with clerkships. She was from Harvard and was working for one of the top firms in the city. After a couple of months at the job, she came home discouraged that she probably wouldn’t get an offer. I couldn’t believe it. She was brilliant and so conscientious. Later I heard the “rest of the story.” An associate with the firm told me that though my roomie was bright and worked hard — she never turned in memorandums on time. She never could stop researching and writing on issues. I’ve always remembered that. Sometimes you just have to stop and say I did my best and it is good. On to the next thing.

    • http://midlifebloggers.com janegassner

      Superb advice! That’s the problem with trying for perfection; it’s an impossible goal. I’m getting much better at catching myself, which is what this post was about.

  • Wanda Schott Patsche

    I am interested in the writers workshop. wpatsche@gmail.com

    • http://midlifebloggers.com janegassner

      I’ve got you on the list now, Wanda.

  • KTP

    I have my friend Sam Adams help sometimes. It works in a pinch.

    • http://midlifebloggers.com janegassner

      In the old days, before MDs got so picky about prescribing, my little helper was Tenuate Dospan. I picked it up in England when I worked at the BBC. In fact, as I recall, one of my going away presents was an antique pill dish full of TDs. I was a hell of a lot more productive then…or at least thought I was!

  • longhollow

    “If you don’t make mistakes, it means you aren’t doing anything.” So I try to focus on doing the best I can and keep “failure” in its proper perspective.

    • http://midlifebloggers.com janegassner

      Failure needs to be rebranded, I think. It’s such an ugly word for such a necessary event.

  • Patricia Patton

    Failure has become my friend and one of my best teachers. Here’s this year’s reminder for me and it is attributed to Jane Fonda: “We are not mean to be perfect. We are meant to be whole.”

    • http://midlifebloggers.com janegassner

      I get the first part of the quote, Patricia, and agree. But the second–I’m having a hard time actually getting my mind around that.

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